Hello,

Sounds to me what you need is some self love. You are compassionate person full of love that you just aren’t channeling in the right direction. It’s seems like you are giving out much more love then you are giving to yourself. If you don’t fully love yourself you will only attract other “half people” as I like to call them into your life. Take some time to be single and figure out your own life, your passions and what you are really looking for in another person. Face your fears to find out how strong you really are! If you don’t know who you are think about who you’d like to be and strive for that! Creating yourself can be very empowering and the best time to do it is when you’re single! It will take a while to stop looking for his car and his texts, but don’t let that own you. You really don’t even need a partner to complete you! Once you have taken the time to really get to know and love yourself you’ll attract other whole people who will lift you and not degrade you. Once you find out how awesome you are you won’t want to be with someone who isn’t right for you. You are only what you believe you are, so decide today that you are an awesome person that deserves a great life and guess what? BAM you are! It’s time to get to really know the greatest person in you life, you! I wish you only health, love and happiness on your journey.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 6 months ago by Ann Hoesman.

Hello,

It sounds like you were where I found myself not too long ago. My now ex, who I was completely and utterly in love with, admitted to having cheated on me for months with a coworker of his. It was heart breaking for both of us. He was still in love with me and couldn’t explain how he let it happen. I was devastated. I went into a depression and stayed with him for another three years. Some days were good and I thought we would be able to get past it. I tried to let go of the hurt and sadness, but I found I just became more depressed. I started looking for reasons to push him away. Feeling stuck can be very hard. There’s always an excuse to let yourself stay in an unhappy situation. I would suggest taking some time to meditate on what would really make you happy in your life. For me it took taking a spontaneous trip to Costa Rica to see my life clearly and realize the life I had been missing out on. It can be hard to make that decision, but there does need to be a line in the sand. One side is moving on and completely letting go of the hurt and pain to commit yourself to the relationship. The other (the scarier option) is a taking a leap in a new direction, one where you let go of your fears and decide how your life will go forth. If you take the second option, as I did my best advice is always be positive. I’m happier then I have ever been in my life. You have the choice to be happy. It’s time to make a difficult decision. I promise you that can be happy, but only you can make it happen. I wish you only love and happiness in whatever decision you make.