Yes. Mostly boss and client, because right now we are offline, people have less to do and have their eyes open more and will pinpoint more including my boss since he under supervision a bit these days.

Yeah I like it cuz its flexible and relatively chill and slower paced with more monitoring more than anything and the computers do most of the work. I dont eat well cuz im gone days at a time and my sleep schedule goes from night to day shift and back to day with a week break in between. That cant be good for the body long term.

Yes I am worried about the boredom and freedom lost. I know it seems very lazy but thats who im currently am. I still need to ask about Vacation and how frequently we can take it.

This is a step career wise but I feel like this is job u take years down the road when u have a family and need stability. I dont want to look for another job, I want the next or current job I have to be my last.

I have tried giving it some thought and I wonder if the childish arrogance in me is being pessimistic. I also leave for a trip, which idk if the new job is cool with altho Ive stated twice I was taking. Would be 2.5, almost the same amount of time I would ask to renounce my current job. I just feel nervous. I just hope this trip can provide more guidance as to the type of life I can be. I feel like I cant do a job more than 3 years without changing. Idk how much currently this job would entertain or be beneficial to me but yeah I only see myself max 2-3 doing this. I wanted to work up to the job I applied for but like I said its bacteria not that much chemistry and its super simplistic while this job altho ez, sometimes can be really easy and I like it about it and I enjoy it cuz its easy. I have to like what Im doing, Thanks for listening Hellcat!

Why do we fear change? I got so used to this lifestyle, although the schedule of 7 on days 7 off and then 7 on nights and the 7 days off is not good for ones health. I know this job like the back of my hand and I really enjoy it because it deals with more innovative and interesting chemicals and the other deals with more bacteria and its straight forward. Ugh, why…. the govt job gives u a life lon pension. I would only have to work a month extra for 20 years if that to achieve that

I am definitely a one person type of guy so I can understand where things went wrong. The problem I have is that everyone is telling me to stop talking to her and I agree with them, I want to move on. I didn’t even say happy birthday to her. She didn’t mention it but she picked up a gift. As long as we keep communicating I’ll always think I have a chance. The problem is I try to ignore and she doesn’t text unless she’s spoken to. I already told her I cannot be work text buddy, I cannot give her any attention. I already asked her 3 times out and she made excuses and the other guy is doing stuff with her. So then I can’t keep talking to her like she can just do that. I’m trying to do no contact but when I feel sad I always try to talk to her again like 3days of no talking as of late. At this point unless he messes up, I don’t think she will meet up with me which is why I wanted to move on but my busy work schedule has impeded me from this and the new women I am talking to have deleted apps or straight up told me they don’t feel a connection because I’m not really putting the best effort and it’s taking time to be myself. Even finding a rebound would be ideal because it would be a much needed distraction and could turn into something special. The thing is that one wasn’t interested and I was okay with that but the other was pretty cute but the conversation fell apart because I was too busy with work and she deleted the app. So this is why I feel sad I gave the wrong one my contact info. I should be making an effort to move on. But I’m also buying a house so everything is super raw and I can’t put in my all now. I like a certain type of women and the more I think about it, the least type of women I can find out Here sadly especially with two potential women deleted and not interested it makes me doubt my choice to stay here cuz I Also am searching for that life partner! Any input is appreciated. I wish things just ended nicely and was honest with her feelings so I wouldn’t feel hatred and wanting to cut her off. She disssed me that much is true

Hi Helcat,

To an extent yes. We had a good thing going but because I didnt establish anything even tho it felt like gf and bf, she felt like crap, she wasnt feeling it anymore for about a month and I argued at times and that kind of behavior triggered her past abusive relationship. The fact that I did two solo trips asking her to come but our interest werent aligning and her just taking no for an answer when she didnt ask more than once to go to the movies (very vague) led her to just go out with someone else and feel the infatuation she feeels whenever she probably meets a new person. we kept talking it out and maybe that pushed her away, i gave her space but even tho we had great chemistry, she keeps seeing the new guy and ive asked another time to go to a cafe and she said she has work. She pretends to act interested and then says she has to do something else. At this point it just seems like ive put myself out there again, even vibing and trying to fight for her attention when I never was introduced to any of her friends and i worked hard to build a relationship, whether romantic or platonic that she doesnt value. She is just drifting further away and it just seems like even our great chemistry and joking ways that she was attracted to arent even gonna last to be  a frienship. like i barely ask to hang out and she is making excuses or already has plans with him. I can only try so much. I am also just slowly talking to other ppl. A person with her background that can change her world around that quickly is dangerous, just cuz she was in abusive relationship she isnt entitled to just push her bitch ways to other ppl. It isnt revenge.  and people arent pawns. If she had just told me her feelings were over and saw another person it would have been fine.

Seems like she had planned this out because this type of thing doesnt happen overnight. She just did it the minute i left town. At this point i dont know what to say but just that she can make time for everyone else but me. Whichis sending a clear message, that she was ready to lose me as a friend and or/partner the moment she went out with someone else. I have to tell her how it is regardless if she thinks its agressive, At this point, it isnt some fling, she just is disrescpecting me as a preson. And she can do whatever she likes but literally its sad how easily she was able to throw it away.  I know I am hugely at fault, I called her pain by not making her #1 in her eyes and her confidence wavered and she might have felt triggered at times. But if cant communicate these things, the cycle will repeat itself; people arent psychics. I am someone who can read ppl pretty well but women are different breed and can mask their emotions very well at times. Thanks for listening, cheers

I dont think I can. I read this article yesterday and i think it has to be right.

https://magnetofsuccess.com/ex-dating-someone-else-already-it-hurts/#google_vignette

It basically says they dont care anyone but themselves. And that she has decided to see whats out there. and that she either has to fail in that relationship or have it be successful. And that by no contact, I can maybe help her miss me or just move on. I mean, it has only been two weeks, but they have gone out 4 times while I just see her here and there cuz she is returning something. She kept my sweaters but I had to tell her to keep em. Like it sounds like she wants to try with a new person, Me being there trying to impress will make her happy but wont make her miss me since Im there. I dont think im dating her anymore. If in 2 weeks (16 days) she has gone out with a guy and I know she moves fast, then what can I do? I cant keep assuming all these dates are pure, they are either having sex or very close to. So i dont know . 16 days ago I was just laying next to her and being intimate and now its like its not the same person. It definitely started before the 2 weeks on her end.So idk if this is the  best approach. Because although we really have fun conversations, I get mad and feel she is toying with me. Basically she knows my feelings, Ive asked to get back and through her actions she is saying otherwise. When we talk she starts to reminisce about us and me as person. So i dunno. I really enjoy talking to her is the thing. But  I also dont want to be idly by and just be the guy who waits. She loves attention so I fear when I stop talking to her, is when she thinks I will have given up. Her way of things is a bit skewed imo. Its hard to stop talking to someone who has been in your life for 4.75 weeks and just stop talking to them. I think if ppl walk out her life, she just lets it happen. Because she is cold and helpless in that matter. She will try only in the beggining

So i guess things arent going so good. I feel good at times cuz I am doing me and focusing on myself but it just is frustrating when she goes out with him after we vibe.

We send voice messages and she even is open to phone calls. The problem is that she is with another person she is interested in, she does not look at her phone at all. Not a single time. Maybe in a 4 hour span, who knows. That isnt good news

She might also be scared of losing me as she does share pics but literally I am not the one that is having sex, she wanted to have sex after the 2nd meet up. I waited to the 3rd or 4th i think cuz I wanted to know her as  person.  Its so frustrating cuz I enjoy talking to her but I get bothered by this. I can tlet somoone walk all over me. Even if we have pleasant and fun convos

Well I wasn’t able to log in and I blew up her message inbox with a lot of them. Apparently she said she had errands to run.  I’m pretty sure she spent the night at his house. She looked at the flowers but my ultimatum was ignored cuz the writing was so illegible so I kind of blew up on her. If I fight it would have to be with no hiding anything and no lying so maybe the trust went down the toilet. Really sucks cuz we really vibe and have great chemistry. Her needing time to process is seeing what’s out there. I’ve chased and waited before and i just Break down like I am right now. I guess it was my fault for not making it official, but not really. Don’t know why I didn’t, just haven’t committed in a long time I guess cuz I don’t want to get hurt but it happens anyway. So would have been a Good call. Sigh I need to focus on the house 🏠

I definitely agree with a lot with what you said. You dissected it perfectly. The problem was not asking her out because then perhaps we could have worked through the problems instead of her running away. Thanks for insight. Gonna give it one last try and then just give up and stop talking to her and move on. Thanks Anita. Whatever follow up definitely helps you are always helping me!

I am Covid Negative. Thank you for youur concern.

The new job (who terminated the contract) has around/over 7000 employees going in and out of the 24 hr facility. At the beginning I was reluctant to work there cuz of covid. But i convinced myself since I liked the work and it payed little but lots of days off and it could give me a job in the chemical field.

I had previously taken a covid test 2 weeks prior and came out negative. This was a new case and so thats why I needed to buy some extra time. It is a crazy world out there. New chemical job terminated contract. Old mountain, mentally stressful construction job I still have and am working there. Really cant handle and want to quit at the end of the week.

Thanks for listening Anita, I really appreciate it