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  • in reply to: Relationship that wasnt a relationship gone wrong #406283
    Alecsee
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    I definitely agree with a lot with what you said. You dissected it perfectly. The problem was not asking her out because then perhaps we could have worked through the problems instead of her running away. Thanks for insight. Gonna give it one last try and then just give up and stop talking to her and move on. Thanks Anita. Whatever follow up definitely helps you are always helping me!

    in reply to: Unhappy #370713
    Alecsee
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    Yes, I was able to get another opponent but same thing happened; everyone is very touchy with Coronavirus type questions and situation. Im not trying to regret but it’s so hard to. And I keep looking at the free time im going to miss out on, on the potential trips I could take anywhere after covid. Why do I do this when I know it’s already done and over with? And why do I throw opportunities away? I can’t predict how employers act during this time and so it’s tough to absorb since I’m generally cautious. Why can’t I learn my lesson. Is the pay and Coronavirus the reason I couldn’t commit? Or is it something else? Am I prideful or someone. I just don’t know :/ Thank you for replying!

    in reply to: Unhappy #370709
    Alecsee
    Participant

    I am Covid Negative. Thank you for youur concern.

    The new job (who terminated the contract) has around/over 7000 employees going in and out of the 24 hr facility. At the beginning I was reluctant to work there cuz of covid. But i convinced myself since I liked the work and it payed little but lots of days off and it could give me a job in the chemical field.

    I had previously taken a covid test 2 weeks prior and came out negative. This was a new case and so thats why I needed to buy some extra time. It is a crazy world out there. New chemical job terminated contract. Old mountain, mentally stressful construction job I still have and am working there. Really cant handle and want to quit at the end of the week.

    Thanks for listening Anita, I really appreciate it

    in reply to: Unhappy #370707
    Alecsee
    Participant

    I have always been tough on myself. But now something similar happened. I tried the mountain job but I just cant keep going. I chose the money; because I really wanted the house. But I was offered another job and actually worked there for a couple of days on my days off. So this past week someone at the mountain was possibly exposed so we were low on staff. I was going to quit and take the new job. They told me if I didnt go, that my contract would end. Then I told them that perhaps I was feeling symptoms. I think they took it as I couldnt work, so they ended my contract even though I really this as a good job. ( 3 days 36 hrs 4 hrs free and 4 days off). Due to me trying to help out the mountain job, I lost the new one. I just asked, I was going to quit this one in the mountain (80+ hr weeks , 6 days a week) Now i keep thinking I have to quit cuz my mental health is suffering. Im also dissapointed because I have good opportunities but I keep not being able to hold onto them. And lastly, the dreams of getting a cheap house that will be cheap because the housing prices will most likely go down is fading cuz i cant take it anymore. Too stressful, Isolation, far from home. And even when I try to move on, I imagine having 4 days off, a social life, free time and when the pandemic clears up, time to travel easily to anywhere. I also saw this as a career change that I kind of wanted.. in the chemical field and not in construction. The last job that rescinded contract was also in the chemical field. Why cannot grasp what I want. The chemical one was 18 an hour while the mountain construction one was 26 an hour and 39 for the hours after 40 hrs. I feel sad dissapointed and upset. I want to quit. I feel like ill be in a better state of mind and I dont want to lose my happiness. In the end, i dont want to be a salty grown up who hates their life :/

    in reply to: Unhappy #370706
    Alecsee
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    I have always been tough on myself. But now something similar happened. I tried the mountain job but I just cant keep going. I chose the money; because I really wanted the house. But I was offered another job and actually worked there for a couple of days on my days off. So this past week someone at the mountain was possibly exposed so we were low on staff. I was going to quit and take the new job. They told me if I didnt go, that my contract would end. Then I told them that perhaps I was feeling symptoms. I think they took it as I couldnt work, so they ended my contract even though I really this as a good job. ( 3 days 36 hrs 4 hrs free and 4 days off). Due to me trying to help out the mountain job, I lost the new one. I just asked, I was going to quit this one in the mountain (80+ hr weeks , 6 days a week) Now i keep thinking I have to quit cuz my mental health is suffering. Im also dissapointed because I have good opportunities but I keep not being able to hold onto them. And lastly, the dreams of getting a cheap house that will be cheap because the housing prices will most likely go down is fading cuz i cant take it anymore. Too stressful, Isolation, far from home. And even when I try to move on, I imagine having 4 days off, a social life, free time and when the pandemic clears up, time to travel easily to anywhere. I also saw this as a career change that I kind of wanted.. in the chemical field and not in construction. The last job that rescinded contract was also in the chemical field. Why cannot grasp what I want. The chemical one was 18 an hour while the mountain construction one was 26 an hour and 39 for the hours after 40 hrs. I feel sad dissapointed and upset. I want to quit. I feel like ill be in a better state of mind and I dont want to lose my happineess

    in reply to: Unhappy #368359
    Alecsee
    Participant

    Im basically saying I don’t like the work im doing and won’t be for the next 4 months. I dread it. I chased the money and here we are, with stress and anxiety

    in reply to: Unhappy #368356
    Alecsee
    Participant
    1. I mean it was still likely if I saved up money! But I was hearing out other ppls thoughts. When I should have been focusing. Yeah im hard on myself but not as bad as I used to be. But ofc the job was good. The only bad things was coronavirus contact (which wasn’t that much) and lower pay . Times are tough now. Many ppl don’t work. I cannot stand being in a confined space at my workplace. I just can’t and just doing dumb stuff
    in reply to: Unhappy #368355
    Alecsee
    Participant

    I mean it was still likely if I saved up money! But I was hearing out other ppls thoughts. When I should have been focusing. Yeah im hard on myself but not as bad as I used to be. But ofc the job was good. The only bad things was coronavirus contact (which wasn’t that much) and lower pay . Times are tough now. Many ppl don’t work. I cannot stand being in a confined space at my workplace. I just can’t and just doing dumb stuff

    in reply to: Unhappy #368353
    Alecsee
    Participant

    I already have to travel back and forth between two cities at the moment. And I’m extremely unhappy. Especially since I didn’t grab the job that was in front of me and was perfect for me

    in reply to: Unhappy #368347
    Alecsee
    Participant

    I want to quit but… its tough, it’s causing me anxiety from being away from my city for too long. I was able to get an interview but it’s in my city, 4 hrs away. So most likely I’m going to have to risk it if I go. I really don’t know. I’m so confused. The previous job offer was perfect for me… and I didn’t capitalize on it. So I’m just disappointed I didn’t just take it. Now everything is complicated, my days feel long, minutes feel like hours. I needed to stay working but now o just blew it. My health is and will suffer from this

    in reply to: Unhappy #368344
    Alecsee
    Participant

    Anita,

     

    No I was chosen, got a job letter offer, and tasked for two 1 dollar increases. The manager told me it was within my range. But then told me I was rejected because they couldn’t do 1 more dollar

    in reply to: Unhappy #368331
    Alecsee
    Participant

    Thank you

    in reply to: Unhappy #368330
    Alecsee
    Participant

    The situation will be worse if I get another job but we have to try!

    in reply to: Unhappy #368329
    Alecsee
    Participant

    The situation will be worse if I get another job but we have to try

    in reply to: Unhappy #368328
    Alecsee
    Participant

    Thank you Anita. Well now it seems because of greediness we lost the job closer to home. They informed me an hour after your posting. I did ask them about how they were dealing with the coronavirus situation at the workplace and asked for the maximum range in payment the manager gave me. They rescinded the offer and gave it to someone else. Well now I may just quit and be left with none of them. I am pushing myself but it’s to the point where it’s too tough on my mind. Just a struggle every day. And I’m usually a positive person. So there’s an issue there. It’s definitely a life lesson of not to be greedy during hard times and I will be in a spiral of regret so I am trying to apply to anything and everything Available.  So that I may still have a chance to buy a house . Thank you for your words. The past topics are erased out of my mind Haha. I appreciate you taking the time to analyze them! Thank you so much. Im very sad and in a difficult spot but things happen. Shouldn’t get too greedy

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