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AlessaParticipantHi Anita
Thanks, I just want to rest a little first if that is okay. ❤️
September 7, 2025 at 10:26 pm in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #449497AlessaParticipantHi Miss Duchess
Meditation and gratitude practice help me a lot. Therapy too. Learning about Buddhism helps me too. It is all training to develop more positive thoughts and a more flexible perspective. ❤️
I think that loneliness is very hard for people and the only cure is really putting yourself out there and finding your people. That you have friends is proof that you can do it again, so don’t be disheartened. You have been doing really well with it, facing your fears putting yourself out there even though it is not comfortable right now. I know it is not easy, but you are doing the right things. ❤️
Recently, I meet someone that I would like to be closer friends with and it hasn’t worked out because their lives are so busy with travelling. It is nice to touch base when she is around though. 😊
The difficulties are still relatively fresh for you as well. They will start to become easier in time. Sure you might always have memories that come up. But you can learn to take care of yourself when that happens. Be kind to yourself, not judge yourself for it. It is part of the human experience and how our minds work. We need to be able to remember to learn. ❤️
September 7, 2025 at 10:11 pm in reply to: How to stop holding grudges against nasty people from my past #449496AlessaParticipantHi Roberta
I just wanted to say. Bless your soul! ❤️ Your father is lucky to have you. I know it is hard taking care of a loved one. I know it is painful, but he gets such excellent care and so much love with you. Such a beautiful nature you have as well and an excellent perspective. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Everyone
I’m sorry. I don’t blame anyone. I’m just stressed. It is just a difficult situation. I should have stepped away sooner. I was trying to help, but I don’t think I did. ❤️
AlessaParticipantI’m not Anita’s speaker. I was just giving my perspective of the whole situation. I’m not going to be here. Good luck everyone! ❤️
AlessaParticipantOh and as Brandy said, it is important to manage our difficulties in a healthy way. We have a responsibility to do that. ❤️
AlessaParticipantYana asked for the arguing to stop on page 11 yesterday.
Please, let’s not argue 🙏🦋
I have to stop, too… I have been too effected… flashbacks from bullying… the atmosphere is too intense…
Let’s rest, please.
AlessaParticipantOne last thing – even though I understand. It doesn’t mean that it is fair. Tee is only defending herself.
You both see each other as enemies, but you share common values and misunderstand each other. ❤️
AlessaParticipantReminder to you both that this is Yana’s thread and that she asked for the fighting to stop. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Yana
I see you and I thank you for everything you have done. ❤️🫂 I’m sorry for your pain. Let’s take care of ourselves. ❤️
AlessaParticipantI feel like the difficulty for Anita might be that she feels like she isn’t being heard at all. That it feels like she has to take responsibility for everything and that her pain hasn’t been acknowledged by you Tee.
I would like to share my perspective on what happened in this conflict. I apologize for the bluntness. ❤️
The situation itself is difficult.
Everyone is vulnerable here, everyone is hurt.
Engaging on a public forum is hard.
Engaging with people who she has previously had conflict and has not built a rapport with might be a trigger for Anita.
Historically, criticism on her personal thread has been a trigger for her.
Engaging with people who she has previously had a conflict with in a conflict might be a trigger for Anita.
C-PTSD, Tourettes and ADHD can lead to feeling being bigger than they normally are for others and last longer. I want to be clear. It is not her fault that Anita has these conditions.
Tee and Anita you both believe in naming harm and defending yourselves strongly.
I am straightforward, I don’t choose my words well and principled. So I leave everyone feeling badly, even myself. I reported the conflicts to Lori and asked for nothing. I am sorry, I just believe that everyone has a right to feel safe and be treated with respect.
Clearly, neither of you trust each other. That will have to change to progress.
Anita – I truly honestly believe that Tee is a good person and she only reacted this way because she was trying to defend herself. When she no longer needs to defend herself she will stop.
Tee has indicated that she is open to compromising when she feels heard.
Can you help Tee to feel heard Anita? Tee is happy to work towards a resolution with you then.
I can understand the need to fight people that you are afraid of. It takes courage and strength to admit that perhaps fears got in the way and the situation was misunderstood.
AlessaParticipantHi Tee
I understand that. I don’t think that she was trying to suggest that it was a different party. Just my perception.
She has never denied that has been talking about us. Simply that she believed it was okay to refer to us indirectly.
I know I’m just stressed, overwhelmed and want to enjoy my weekend. Sorry Tee. ❤️
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AlessaParticipantIf this situation doesn’t improve shortly, I’m going to have to prioritize my self-care over being supportive. I cannot cope with this kind of prologued stress. ❤️
AlessaParticipantSometimes we even move without thinking. I wonder James. What your perspective is of the function of the mind? ❤️
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