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AlessaParticipantHi Tee
I’m going to ask you for a favour, if that’s okay? Would you mind not engaging with Anita on my thread when it comes to talking about other members she has a conflict with and is currently ignoring? ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
Please respect the nature of this thread and discuss your issues with Brandy directly with Brandy or make your own thread. Gossiping hurts people. ❤️
I agree with Yana in that quoting other members when in a conflict is bullying. And I’m going to ask Lori to respect my wishes, since this is my thread. ❤️
If you have concerns about bullying you are welcome to discuss them with Lori in the same way that everyone else does. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Yana
Thank you for sharing such wonderful quotes. ❤️
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AlessaParticipantI know that it hurt Tee and I when we were ignored and not spoken too directly. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
Do you think Yana or Brandy might feel unsafe too? It was suggested for you to speak directly to people if you have any issues with them. Why do you think that might be? Could it hurt people not being spoken to directly? ❤️
I felt unsafe while the conflict was going on too. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Yana
I’m so sorry. ❤️ You deserve to feel safe and I know that you are brave. But I understand, you have to take care of yourself.
AlessaParticipantHi Everyone
I guess, I don’t understand why people keep talking about children as if they are only filled with love. 😂
Children are the epitome of grasping, they just have a shorter attention span. At times filled with a disproportionate amount of anger, simply because they don’t always get what they want.
They spend childhood trying to learn how to control their emotions. For some, this quest lasts a lifetime.
I think wholeness for me is about accepting human nature. Taking the “bad” with the “good”. For anything can be bad and good, if used properly or improperly, depending on perspective. ❤️
For me, I struggle within myself wanting different things simultaneously. Even things that I don’t really want, purely as a result of trauma. It goes back to holding things lightly with kindness and awareness. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Roberta
Thank you for sharing! It’s lovely to read your thoughts. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
Everyone is welcome on my thread, all I ask is that people are respectful and honour the intentions of the thread and help to make this a safe and brave place for everyone. ❤️
I appreciate your intentions. Do you think that perhaps by sharing your feelings about Yana and Brandy you might essentially be inviting them to respond to you? ❤️
My understanding is that Yana is a good person. I don’t know Brandy, but she seems to care about you. ❤️
In my experience, when people are hurt, they use stronger language. The conflict was painful to watch even for bystanders. They are both very caring people, that is why they were hurt. ❤️
AlessaParticipantConversely, an acceptance of change also means a willingness to accept life as it is.
AlessaParticipantHi Peter
Please don’t worry, I am just a very literal thinker when it comes to language. I actually appreciate your perspective. It is helpful to have other voices out there to learn from. ❤️
I think for me, fix suggests a feeling of being broken and a desire to escape pain.
Change for me isn’t about escaping pain. It is not necessarily organic, often quite structured. There might be organic triggers. But I often actively work hard to learn and incorporate. I think as you say, it is the nature of the stage in my life. Also, the availability of information online. You can save so much time and effort just by looking up something online. But you don’t necessarily learn to solve problems yourself.
I started out, not seeing the link between fixing and change. But whilst it is not necessarily conscious, I think that there are some things that I might need to sit with.
Thank you for humouring me! This conversation was helpful. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Anita
I understand that these things are tiring and painful. I have been through it too.
Try not to beat yourself up over something that you were born into. People cannot change something that they aren’t aware of. Now you are aware and as painful as it is, it is a blessing. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Yana
Babysitting nephews still counts! 😊
Awww he was a very hungry dinosaur. 🦖 🫣
Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories with them. ❤️
My son copies our dogs a lot. Sometimes I wonder if he thinks he’s a dog? He even pretends to feed his teddies dog food and when he was younger he would pat other children on the back as if they were dogs. 😂
The latest struggle is the he figured out how to climb out of the crib (it is a low one and he is a good climber, so he is safe). It took him ages to fall asleep last night, he kept coming through and giggling. He was very impressed with himself. ❤️
AlessaParticipantHi Lucidity
Bless your soul! ❤️ To be fair, biting can really hurt. I’ve had bruises through jeans because of it. He doesn’t really seem to have a good sense of how painful it is.
Aww ruining his fun bless. 😂 It is nice that your son feels comfortable in expressing his feelings with you! ❤️
Ah well he doesn’t do the pretending with others. Mostly just me. I tend to be quite relaxed with my approach to things. Recently, I’m trying to be a little firmer. I started telling him that mummy doesn’t like it when you ignore her, it’s nice when he listens and helping him to finish up what he’s doing.
Yes, I don’t have a good sense of smell. But when I was pregnant it improved. I thought is this what other people who have a good sense of smell experience. 😂
Your experience during pregnancy is fascinating. That is a beautiful story with your husband. Thank you for sharing! ❤️ I suspect you are correct with familiarity being a factor too.
Interestingly, I have issues where I mix up similar colours. Black and navy blue being the worst one. But I can also have issues with things like pinks and purples too. I ask my sister who is an artist what colour things are when it is important.
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