Sorry, I was writing to stay awake for my son to give him his medicine late at night.

To be clear, I do think that everyone has important needs. I don’t judge anyone for skills that they simply haven’t learned or unlearned yet. I have had a lot of struggles in communication with my own PTSD and neurodivergence. I understand how painful it is to have difficulties with these things. I also understand that everyone has different needs and boundaries.

My wish is for everyone to feel supported in conflict. ❤️

Hi Peter

Sorry, my head was all over the place yesterday. It sounds like I didn’t come across very well. ❤️

I always think you do a great job exploring these topics. I just feel like you do so well at it, there is not much for me to add. If that makes sense? So I try to explore related perspectives. 😊

What I meant was these things can even both exist at the same time. It can be hard to see through in the moment. Reflection helps me.

Yes, exactly! These things are complex. There are a myriad of things going on.

I feel like because people are so different with different needs that are often incompatible with our own, it takes co-operation for people to connect. To me, this involves accepting peoples differences, trying to find ways to understand each other and compromise.

You are right in that we are all imperfect. I think that we are just animals. Human nature is messy. Babies are addicts, biters, hitters, screamers and even liars. Don’t get me wrong, they are also plenty of wonderful things too. I feel like adults share a lot of the traits babies have. We all make mistakes and are a work in progress.

I really appreciate you taking the time to explain your intent. I actually really love understanding the authors unique perspective and intention. I know that everything is open to interpretation, but I always hated book reports in school. I always wished that I could talk to the authors and then write a report.

I feel like trust is important in seeing people clearly. ❤️

Hi Tommy

How are you and your family keeping?

Yes, definitely! 😄

My son is sick at the moment. He will be okay in time though. Outside of that, he is growing well and a very active boy. He’s very friendly and just wants to play with other kids. Still working on his talking. He’s developing his own sense of humour which is lovely to see.

He laughed at one of my jokes for the first time yesterday while we were at the hospital. He was playing with a toy there which had wheels. I asked if he was enjoying himself (no answer), and then I said of course you are, it’s wheeeelie great!

I’m a lover of terrible puns. At least someone appreciates it. 😂

There was also this funny moment the other day when we were really worried about him having a limp. It turned out to be a sock stuffed into the toe of his shoe. 😂

I’m preparing to adopt an authoritative discipline style when he’s two. It’s the evidence based gold standard these days. You aren’t really supposed to do these things before the age of two apparently. I’m really nervous about the idea of discipline because of my trauma. It feels really uncomfortable. I know that there is a difference between healthy and unhealthy discipline though.

The plan is to get his autism diagnosed at two, so we can get him any help he needs.

Hi Tommy

Great to see you again! I feared that I never would. I still think of you often. ❤️

I’m glad to hear that you met someone you have been learning from. Keep up the good work with your practices!

Hi Chau

I’m so sorry to hear that she strung you along like that again. That’s very cruel. ❤️

I understand the difficulty with setting boundaries, especially since she is a coworker. It can be hard to step away someone who works in your building because it is polite to interact with coworkers and difficulties with coworkers can become very complicated. Not necessarily something that you might want to deal with.

Do you think it might be a good idea to write a note that you can reflect on if you feel an urge to talk to her again? Perhaps you might want to include how you would like to deal with the situation? How the difficulties have made you feel? A summary of events in your relationship with her?

Hi Everyone

I feel the same way too. I expect that most good people do, especially when they encounter conflict. I feel like when it comes to trauma and conflict there can often be a break between reality, the present and the past. It is easy to believe fears. They whisper to us that no one cares. But it’s not true.

I wonder what happens if we just listen to each other instead of being stuck in our own heads, worrying. ❤️

Anita, how are you doing? ❤️ No pressure to respond if you don’t want to.