Hi Tommy

How are you and your family keeping?

Yes, definitely! 😄

My son is sick at the moment. He will be okay in time though. Outside of that, he is growing well and a very active boy. He’s very friendly and just wants to play with other kids. Still working on his talking. He’s developing his own sense of humour which is lovely to see.

He laughed at one of my jokes for the first time yesterday while we were at the hospital. He was playing with a toy there which had wheels. I asked if he was enjoying himself (no answer), and then I said of course you are, it’s wheeeelie great!

I’m a lover of terrible puns. At least someone appreciates it. 😂

There was also this funny moment the other day when we were really worried about him having a limp. It turned out to be a sock stuffed into the toe of his shoe. 😂

I’m preparing to adopt an authoritative discipline style when he’s two. It’s the evidence based gold standard these days. You aren’t really supposed to do these things before the age of two apparently. I’m really nervous about the idea of discipline because of my trauma. It feels really uncomfortable. I know that there is a difference between healthy and unhealthy discipline though.

The plan is to get his autism diagnosed at two, so we can get him any help he needs.

Hi Tommy

Great to see you again! I feared that I never would. I still think of you often. ❤️

I’m glad to hear that you met someone you have been learning from. Keep up the good work with your practices!

Hi Chau

I’m so sorry to hear that she strung you along like that again. That’s very cruel. ❤️

I understand the difficulty with setting boundaries, especially since she is a coworker. It can be hard to step away someone who works in your building because it is polite to interact with coworkers and difficulties with coworkers can become very complicated. Not necessarily something that you might want to deal with.

Do you think it might be a good idea to write a note that you can reflect on if you feel an urge to talk to her again? Perhaps you might want to include how you would like to deal with the situation? How the difficulties have made you feel? A summary of events in your relationship with her?

Hi Everyone

I feel the same way too. I expect that most good people do, especially when they encounter conflict. I feel like when it comes to trauma and conflict there can often be a break between reality, the present and the past. It is easy to believe fears. They whisper to us that no one cares. But it’s not true.

I wonder what happens if we just listen to each other instead of being stuck in our own heads, worrying. ❤️

Anita, how are you doing? ❤️ No pressure to respond if you don’t want to.

Hi Lucidity

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! ❤️

Congratulations on learning to manage things with your difficult family members! Not an easy thing to do at all.

I can understand having difficulty with not being seen. Ultimately, I think it is okay to be hurt. As long as you see your pain, you are still being seen. These things are definitely complicated. I feel like there is no right or wrong answer. Everyone just finds their own way. ❤️