Hi Tee

I’m glad that you’re still able to enjoy your holiday despite the limited mobility. I know that struggle of adapting to life with limited mobility and trying to find new ways to enjoy life. ❤️

Thank you for sharing the experiences with your mother! That is good to hear you are less triggered when talking to her. Well done on getting past the learned conditioning from her and focusing on regulating your emotions!

I think that is incredible you don’t get weighted down by the interactions with your mother anymore. That’s a really significant achievement and so healthy.

It sounds like you’ve really got a handle on how to manage conflict with your mother. 😊

You are most definitely not evil, or a bad daughter for expressing your needs. You’re a pretty awesome person. I’m glad that you stand up for yourself. You deserve it! ❤️

Yes, I have definitely experienced losing friends and family because I won’t take sides. I’m just not a tribal kind of person and that rubs some people up the wrong way.

It is a shame when that happens, but it is what it is. I just move on when that happens. It really isn’t possible to have a relationship with someone who doesn’t want it. Believe me, I tried with my adopted mother. 😂

It is a shame because she was not willing to meet my needs or respect my boundaries. Her agoraphobia became much worse over COVID and unfortunately, she showed little interest in my family. I didn’t want my son to feel rejected by her being such an infrequent figure in his life, especially given that we live so close by. All I did was simply stop pursuing and she hasn’t bothered.

I’m an adult, I can cope with difficulties. My son is a sensitive child and I want to protect him from things like that. There are things that I can protect him from as a parent and things that I can’t. The less trauma he has to deal with in his life, the better in my opinion. Better now while he’s still young and doesn’t understand. Hopefully, he won’t even remember.

I wondered if I did the right thing recently.

Part of me wants to be there for my mother too. I understand her difficulties. It is not fair to him though. These things being so one sided.

Take care 🥰