Hi Anita

Thank you for your kindness. I really appreciate you! ❤️

I’m sorry to hear that you live in an area with no public transport. That is a real pain in the butt!

My apologies, I didn’t want to assume. I know some people who just don’t like public transport. Or sometimes it is too difficult for them to get to.

I really like cycling. I can’t drive because of my dyspraxia. I feel like it is much easier to get around with a bicycle, as opposed to walking.

I’m glad that you have a special person helping you with ordering things online. ❤️Perhaps they will be able to help you with the clothing conundrum? A lot of countries have different websites. I’m not sure what would be the popular ones for clothing in America.

I’m sorry to hear that people took her side and didn’t stand up for you. It’s a horrible thing to experience growing up around people who validated her abuse and gave no thought to the suffering you endured.

Since you say that you have more difficulty communicating in person and find it easier to communicate here, it must be hard for you that so many people you have cared about have moved on from this website. I do get the sense that you care about each and every person.

That you often find yourself in a caregiver role, supporting people freely with no expectations is another layer too.

It is difficult because conflict is natural to occur in any relationship and a lot of people are particularly sensitive here. I don’t mean that in a bad way, it is just less likely to overcome normal difficulties with relationships than usual, sadly. I know that our difficulties sucked, but I’m glad that we hung in there, figured things out and learned to trust each other. ❤️

Hi Steve

Welcome! I’m glad to see you created a thread of your own. Thank you for sharing! I enjoyed reading what you have to say about the 10 realms. ❤️

I hadn’t thought of linking the realms to a mudra. Interesting.

I’m a simple and practical person. I enjoy koans, but I don’t think I’m the target audience. My answer is just silence. 😊

I tend to think of the realms in the sense of reincarnation. I do just take things at face value though.

Thinking of the realms and mudra in the way that you explained it is a nice idea. On one hand the causes of suffering, the other is the path to freedom from it.

One hand washes the other. And the mudra forming a whole. For what is one hand without the other? Surely, we would not be living?

I hope to hear from you again soon! ❤️

Hi Anita

Not to worry, I used to teach digital literacy. You might not realise this, but you are doing quite well with technology. A lot of people can’t do anything at all. So even though it is tricky and takes time to learn because of your difficulties, I have faith that you will get there in time. Just be gentle and patient with yourself while you’re getting used to it. ❤️

I always used to say, that if you aren’t working in technology not to worry if there are things that you can’t do, as long as you can do the things that you want and need to do, that is the main thing. That’s why other people work in IT to help everyone else out with the harder stuff. 😊

That’s honestly fair, a lot of people don’t like driving long distances. It does sound like a long way to walk though. Are there any public transport options?

Online shopping might be a good idea to try, if you have a good mail service. The main thing is not to go onto websites that aren’t well known because it is not safe to give out card details freely.

http://www.amazon.com is very well known and safe to use. It has a very good return policy.

You would have to go through various stages.

Registering or creating an account.

Searching for items and adding them to your “basket”

Adding card and address details

Placing the order or checking out

If you take it in stages, and practice bit by bit I’m sure you’ll get there in the end. What people tend to get stuck on is creating passwords. If you have any questions about anything I’d be happy to help.

Thank you, it’s very kind of you to say!

I have never heard anything so ridiculous as you supposedly being hateful. It sounds like she projected herself onto you a lot. She was the hateful one, which is why she couldn’t see your inherent goodness. But her cruelty couldn’t stamp out your love and kindness. It only grows, day by day. I’m sorry that you grew up with a hateful mother, a very painful experience indeed and despite the pain, you loved her anyway. I’m glad that you were strong enough to hold onto your kindness and she didn’t manage to take that from you. I wouldn’t have been lucky enough to meet you if she had. ❤️

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Hi Omyk

What I like about your approach to faith is that you are a man of the world. I get the feeling that you are an open person and don’t judge others struggles. You have the ability to connect with people. I think that is a beautiful approach to religion. ❤️

It is perfectly natural to have these desires and feelings. To grieve them.

Companionship is not shameful. Love and touch are not shameful. It is having a partner in life. Sharing your struggles, supporting each other. It is asking a lot of someone to demand that they go it alone. I know the idea is that you are not alone, to turn to God.

Have you ever had a massage before? I don’t mean anything dirty. But being touch starved is a thing and I seem to remember that your child is getting older, they may not as huggy. Perhaps that might be relaxing? I get the feeling that you don’t have much of a chance to be and have someone take care of you for once. I hear it can be helpful for people who are celibate.

You haven’t failed at all and your thoughts and feelings aren’t sins.

Your values, your thoughts and feelings are from the perspective of a man living in this modern world. You are not a monk living in isolation and times have changed. It may be helpful to honour your own personal values, as well as the values of your religion.

You are a spiritual leader, but still a man, still a father, still a businessman providing for his family. Trying to figure out your place in the world. Your heart is heavy and full, it not a sin to want to share it.

You don’t have to decide today, or tomorrow, or the day after, etc. When you are ready you will know.

You are perfect as you are and God loves you. ❤️🙏

I can see that you are someone who tries their best every day. Your best is always good enough.

Hi Anita

I didn’t want to overcommit and say that I would get back to you now incase I wasn’t able to and disappointed you.

It looks like a message I wrote to you got lost somehow. I was ill, so maybe I forgot to post it. I’m sorry it got lost along the way. I don’t even remember what it was now. 😅

It seems like you want to communicate in a different way?

I’m a practical person. I love advice, I go around asking people for their opinions and advice all of the time. I feel no shame in it.

And I’m British, there are just ways that things are done here with empathy and sympathy. It isn’t meant to patronise in any way. It is a way to show care.

I’m sorry and don’t mean to offend in any way. I’m quite happy to find a new way of communicating that works for you though. Please let me know when I’m doing something helpful or unhelpful.

I do care, always. ❤️

I’m not afraid of being alone though. I’m used to it. Made peace with it. The reality of life sometimes. Being there for myself is the best thing I can do to remedy that.

It is nice to connect with others though. It makes me feel cared about and I enjoy learning about others interests, experiences and perspectives.

I value your perspective, as well as everyone else’s here. ❤️

I do wish that we could connect a bit more. But I understand that these things take time and that we are two different people with two different needs and sometimes life gets in the way.

Take care, my friend ❤️