Hi Tee

That’s fine, no worries. ❤️

I’m sorry for asking for something. I hope it didn’t upset you? I didn’t assume that you would do something like that. I just really wanted to help make this a safe space. I panicked because of what was happening.

I think you’ve been really helpful and thoughtful. I really appreciate your presence. ❤️

Hi Anita

I appreciate that you can see how these things might be hurtful. ❤️

Unfortunately, it doesn’t really change the way I feel.

I’m not really comfortable with even this level of conflict.

It is stressful and upsetting for me. ❤️

I know you are trying your best. ❤️

Hi Anita

I’m not discussing Brandy.

My point Anita is that this space is supposed to be safe for everyone. Quoting people can be hurtful and embarrassing. On a public forum, there is an element of public shaming. I don’t know how much clearer I can be? ❤️

If I quoted something you had said about me that was hurtful it could embarrass or hurt you. Other people feel shame, hurt and embarrassment too. ❤️

Hi Anita

I appreciate that you are doing your best to try and keep things light? I thought that I was clear before in asking you not to post quotes.

There is a reason that I never do it. Because it is hurtful. You asked recently for your quotes not to be used? I presume because it hurt you?

The difficulty is that on a public forum it can be seen as public shaming.

Can you please stick to the intent of this thread and help this to be a safer place? ❤️

Hi Anita

I appreciate your apology and your willingness to engage in a healthy way. I understand that you are trying your best to learn and adapt right now. ❤️

You were talking to Tee about Brandy suggesting that Brandy might have posted an abusive message. Soliciting Tee’s opinion on her, someone who is not present in this thread and saying that you were going to repost her message. To me, that is gossiping.

You are welcome to try to engage with Brandy or Yana directly on my thread, all I ask is that the nature of thread is honoured and you help to make this a safe and brave space for everyone. It would be helpful to speak to people individually when discussing a conflict. ❤️

I understand that you are hurt by things that were said in the heat of conflict. ❤️

Hi Anita

Please respect the nature of this thread and discuss your issues with Brandy directly with Brandy or make your own thread. Gossiping hurts people. ❤️

I agree with Yana in that quoting other members when in a conflict is bullying. And I’m going to ask Lori to respect my wishes, since this is my thread. ❤️

If you have concerns about bullying you are welcome to discuss them with Lori in the same way that everyone else does. ❤️

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