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  • January 14, 2019 at 11:30 am #274513
    Allison
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    Dear Anita,

    You hit the nail right on the head! Yes, I fear he really needs my help with taking care of the home and the kids. I will admit, my coming home has been better for me also. Its made me be a better mother. I don’t want to hurt him or my family by separating again. But if he finds out I’m cheating, it will be bad. I don’t see us separating amicably and nicely.

    Allison

     

    January 14, 2019 at 9:45 am #274481
    Allison
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    I guess my question is and what I’m feeling is, should I just stop all this sneaking around and just try harder at my marriage and just try to find love again with my husband. So I’m not such a sinner and horrible person.

    January 14, 2019 at 9:38 am #274479
    Allison
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    Dear Anita,

    I feel things are great at home with the kids. We raise them together and do a great job. He works during the day, and likes to stay home at night. I think he has chosen not to socialize with me (unless its family stuff) outside of the house because of the problems we have had. I tell him I’m going out with girlfriends, when I am really on dates with other men. As long as Im home at a reasonable time and don’t stay out all night. He has not been suspicious. I think my daughter thinks its strange that Mom & Dad don’t do anything together, but she hasn’t mentioned it.

    Allison

    January 14, 2019 at 9:12 am #274469
    Allison
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    Hi Anita,

    Total happiness level for me is being fulfilled by my partners. Maybe its a fantasy to be totally happy with someone when everyone has there flaws. Also having fun with other men is going out to dinner, drinking wine, laughing. My husband has been sober for many years and that has been a huge resentment for me.

    Allison

     

    January 14, 2019 at 8:37 am #274447
    Allison
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    Dear Lost Soul,

    I am no expert on relationships, but if you are open to another opinion, I would like to share. I know you are wanting to get married but at 27 years old, you still have time. Enjoy dating him and have fun and just relax. I felt like in your post that you kind of putting pressure on him as well as yourself about commitment. If you don’t stress too much over it, and he is the one. He will come around. I would give it a year. You don’t to force into a marriage that isnt right for either of you.

    alibro991

     

    August 6, 2018 at 11:18 am #220489
    Allison
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    Thank Anita,

    I am grateful to my husband for letting me move back home and not with my parents. We stopped marriage counseling a long time ago because neither of us are putting in any effort. But I still feel he wont let me go. As unhappy as he is and as much as I have hurt him, he is very co-dependent and wont move on. We are together in the house as a family, but I’m sure my children are picking up on Mom & Dad are not as they used to be. My daughter is 15 and my boy is 12. I am hoping in maybe 3 years I can make another exit as painless as possible.

    Allison

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