Hi Nicole! Thanks for your response. I’m glad you can relate. After the sudden breakup, I was in a pretty bad place. But after a little bit of time, I realized I couldn’t blame him and I couldn’t blame myself. We both were unhappy without a doubt. We had been together for so long and we spent so much time together that I forgot all the things I liked doing and all my needs. I literally had to ask myself, what do I need from a relationship again? I had time to realize that I would be okay with or without him (a big deal for me), and I think that realization added to my distant nature when getting back into the relationship.

It’s been hard, trying to balance being 100% in the relationship while remembering our past, and noticing the many differences in our personalities. Before, I thought he was too good for me. I thought I was doing something wrong, and of course I made mistakes, but I’ve gained self-confidence. I just have to make a choice… We’re happy when we’re together and we’ve had a great time, but our differences might be a deal breaker. I don’t want to make a mistake and end this relationship for good, especially when I haven’t fully gotten over the past & may just be overthinking things.

I’m thinking about going with the flow to see how I feel with some time. Just wish things weren’t complicated! Lol