Dear Anita,

Thank you very much for your sweet message 💖 I’m also very grateful for our beautiful and compassionate exchange 🙏 I’m glad that it helps you too in some ways and the mutual guidance and care makes us feel better 😊

I really like how you explained the old quotation and that the feeling of gratitude in the moment shall be stronger than the fear of tomorrow. This is really powerful Anita.

The way you look at the differences between people in carrying different burdens in life is also remarkable. And sometimes it has nothing to do with us directly (like your example with industrial pollution). So there is no fixed formula in life and the rest will remain a mystery until we die.

You also mentioned the danger of unprocessed emotions which is very true. I’ve been doing that for years now. I was afraid of my own feelings and thoughts for so long. It was easier to keep them away back then but somehow they kept alive and came to the surface in the most unexpected moments of our lives.

And yes, Anita I believe that it could be a matter of perspective because all of us go through some kind of struggles in life (smaller or bigger). But maybe it was easier for some to deal with them as they had loving support all along their lives.

Today I had another surprising discovery. The therapy lady that I told you about refered me to someone who knows places for people that need a refuge. It could be a sign for me to escape and change the environment.

I’m starting to think that the best option for me now is to move out to a monastery or a temple and participate in a silent stay. I would spend time in prayers without any words and direct contact with people for a very long time. It could help me to forget and forgive.

Some people stay there till the end of their lives, helping around but leading a peaceful life. Have you ever been to such a place Anita? Would you agree with me that it is the only good option for me right now?

Anita, you are an amazing woman with a beautiful heart. Sharing your warmth and kindness is a real blessing and enrichment to my life and people on this forum. Thank you seems not to be enough ❤️

Have a good day dear,
Warm hugs back and lots of love 🤗🫂

Dear Anita,

Thank you for always being there for me, no matter what. I’m incredibly grateful for your unwavering support. It has helped me through so much. It means the world to me!

Thank you for your constant encouragement and beautiful words of praise. I couldn’t have done it without you.

You believe in me, even when I doubted myself. Your support is invaluable.

Yes, there are up and downs at home and I agree with you that if it was all bad I would escape one way or the other. I feel that I need some safe shelter with less contact. This could assure more respect between us and limited control over my life decisions.

I love how you interpreted those universal laws. It makes more sense to me now. The change will happen gradually. Your example of the seed and a plant is amazing Anita.

And it is true that I’m on this forum since a very long time and unfortunately I feel sorry that I could not bring more happy news with me. I know that I’ve made a huge progress with your help but I want to do more. Sometimes I feel that some invisible chains hold me back and I can’t move on with concrete action plan.

I’m trying to apply as much change as I can Anita…

Easter Egg Hunt is a lovely tradition. I’m glad that you had some fun! And at the same time I’m sorry for the wet ending. There was a saying people used a lot when I was a child: ‘Do not praise the day before the sunset’. I really do not like it as it always makes you watchful for something to go wrong. Do you agree Anita?

Your example reminds us that life goes in circles and you made a lovely connection with the Law of Attraction. And it also made me questioning if it applies to all people or only some? Do some people are destined to be humbled and others not? Or is it that some are more empathetic and experience it more profoundly than others? It could also be that we pay for our past life mistakes if we believe in such a concept…

To my surprise, today I’ve met a lady who is giving classes in natural therapies. She told me that she never asked for anything in life and she got everything. Happily married with kids, loving husband, home, great work, family, both parents and even all grand parents still alive. And always healthy life. She has everything and knows people that are blessed just like her. She doesn’t believe in any Laws and thinks that she got lucky to be born in a loving family, having good DNA and that she never felt humbled by life either. How do you see that Anita?

Interesting coincidence, isn’t it?

It is really great talking with you Anita and exchanging ideas that hopefully will lead us to more understanding and inner peace.

Thank you again dear!

Have a lovely evening and talk to you soon 🤗💖💫

Dear Anita,

It is lovely reading you again and thank you for your kindness, compassion and beautiful acknowledgement of my efforts. It makes me feel really appreciated and that is something I rarely experienced before.

I would also like to express my admiration on how you handled Tella’s questions. I was in a similar situation a few years ago (except I have no kids). It was awful and the way my ex fiancée treated his 2 kids and neglected my own needs felt like a torture. I would never ever go back to that situation again (even if the man is nice and all). It is a recipe for disaster.

Back to the situation at home… I completely agree with you, Anita. I had to do something. And I did. Yesterday, I had a another confrontation with my mother. She was moody again, complaining how hard her life was and that I should do more for her. As usual she starts talking negatively (rather a monolog than a discussion). She did not even let me finish my dinner…

I lost my cool and told her that I won’t tolerate it anymore and that moving out is the best option for us. And that from now on I won’t talk to her unless she is polite. I felt awafel seeing her shouting and bringing up the past. I was afraid of her health as she is an older lady. My heart was racing and I went to sleep to avoid further escalation and pain.

This morning she apologised but this pattern repeats itself for so long. I feel bad for her and for talking back to her as I still love her and she has good qualities in her. Unfortunately it is really hard to live with her and it affects my life.

How would you react in my place Anita? I do not want to be silent but I do not want to fight with her either.

To answer your questions, I would love a place where I can feel safe and peaceful. I do not want to walk on the eggshells and be afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing.

Does a place like that even exist? It seems like everyone is arguing and fighting and it is quite normal nowadays.

I’m glad you agree with me regarding the old spiders and the friendships between man and woman.

It seems like nowadays men are spoiled and women are desperate to get them. It is the opposite of what it was in the old times.

Who has even heard before about the friends with benefits or situationships? No lady would agree to that. Nowadays men do not even have to invite you for a drink in order to sleep with a woman. And God forbid if she expects to be invited to a dinner. You will be called a gold digger and the next woman is just around a corner.

Not easy to be single nowadays…

Recently I had another spider reconnection. We stopped talking back then as I told him that I’m only interested in a traditional marriage (no prenups, not being a concubine). Now he is saying that he wants that too and that I should move out from my mother’s and live with him at his own place. But I should sign a prenup as all women can change after marriage and get half of his place. I told him that I do not live with men who are not my husband anyway. And he wants to ‘test’ it before. I told him no but he is pushing.

Anita, how would you react to that in my place? And also what is your own perspective on that?

It has been a very interesting discussion and you’ve mentioned some really important aspects in my message and in the one to Tella.

Thank you again Anita! 🤗

Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

Have a lovely day dear! Big hug and lots of warmth 💖🫂

Dear Anita,

Lovely to hear from you and thank you for checking up on me!

Me and the man I was seeing, we stopped our communication. He asked me in one of his text messages if I want him to be more successful and I replied that if we want to be more than fiends, then yes. He did not reply and our chat stopped there. I did not contact him again.

So he prefered to stop the communication than to remain friends. For him romantic connection was more important than staying friends for the time being.

I felt a bit guilty that I told him to be more successful as it might mean that I am materialistic and not person oriented. But then I realised that wanting someone honest, hard working and successful is not a sin and I need all those qualities in someone to compensate for a life I never had before.

I felt a bit of a relief. I felt more free after the chat stopped. And look Anita it’s been almost 2 months and no news from him and I guess no progress with the project either. I could waste more time by just chating and waiting.

So yes Anita, you helped me to make the right choice and now I’m focusing on dealing with my anxiety and fear.

I still don’t know how to conquer the stagnation
and helplessness in my current situation and finding a new place is not easy.

But I hope I’ll get there…

Anita, I love your new picture! You’re beautiful outside & inside 😍

Thank you for being here for me like a guardian angel 😇

Hope to hear from you soon and how is your life going.

Big hug for now 🫂

Dear Anita,

I’m happy to hear that you are proud of me and that you liked my message. Your words give me courage 😘

I’ll try my best to keep away from the spider web 🕸 and learn to protect my well being.

And if anything remarkable happens, I’ll let you know.

Have a great day Anita!

I will miss you 💖🤗

Hello Jana,

Thank you for sharing. The more I try to work with my emotions the more anxious I get. I don’t know why…

I grew up in household where I could not speak up my mind without being punished one way or the other. Every day I had a deep fear of consequences and being rejected by the only people I care about.

Now I feel guilty that I offend him, hurt his feelings and leave him in the difficult time. He told me about his health issues.

I feel sorry for him…

And I am afraid that I won’t get another chance to find another friend and somehow also escape my reality at home. I live in a remote place and
my options are limited.

I hope that helps you to understand me better.

Thank you Jana 🙏 🌸

Hello Jana,

Thank you for your reply. I’m glad to read your perspective on that. I agree with you and Anita 💯 but internally it feels so hard to let go.

You can read my message above and an update from this man. His health issues make me hesitate to end it right away. I just don’t have it in me to say goodbye after reading his new messages.

You said it right, my energy goes in the wrong direction and I need another man to be happy 🙏

I just feel horrible to do it right now…