Andrea Lewis lives in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. She is the author of Dramaville is a not a place; it’s a state of mind. Her memoir promises to be filled with drama, emotional turmoil and an inspiration to never give up! Connect with Andrea at http://www.andreamlewis.com.
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April 4, 2013 at 10:10 am #30560
I think you have to follow your gut instinct and do what’s best for you regardless of other people’s reactions/opinions.
I am able to say this now, wholeheartedly because I’ve been in your shoes three years ago. As Hannah mentioned, it is possible to reach a point of no return and that’s exactly what happened in my situation.
As Lori mentioned, I did try to change the boundaries, but my relationships with my entire family never changed. With the help of a therapist and journalling my thoughts/feelings I struggled big time with my decision.
Though grieving the loss of my family in my life has been a gradual process. Removing their toxic energy has been one of the best gifts that I could have given myself.
I have found self-love, inner peace and happiness. Not to mention the physical symptoms I experienced for years—headaches, stomach pains, anxiety/depression miraculously disappeared.
With love and light,
-AndreaApril 4, 2013 at 9:22 am #30494
Today I am GRATEFUL for:
April 4, 2013 at 9:19 am #30493
- the sunshine in Ottawa, because it makes me happy;
- the library, because I can borrow books for free;
- this new forum, because I can connect with like-minded individuals
For me, anxiety is triggered when I’m denying my current reality.
I gain relief by journalling all of my thoughts without judgment. I also take a walking meditation to connect with nature and this helps bring me back to the present moment.April 4, 2013 at 9:16 am #30492
I can identify with your spiraling negative thoughts that seem to be uncontrollable. I spent countless years feeling emotionally depleted. After some trial and error, the following effectively helped me cope:
- Acknowledge feelings by journalling thoughts without judgement.
- Eliminate ALL sugars, namely high-fructose foods. They only contribute to racing thoughts and depressive episodes.
- Exercise such as walks in nature and yoga.
- Meditation to calm the mind.
Sending you positive vibes your way.