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May 15, 2023 at 11:39 am #418769
Thank you for your advice.
The thing is she doesn’t know that I’m coming yet and I will let her know but as I feel pretty vulnerable, I think I’ll wait till she proposes a meeting…I want to be sure that she does want to see me…May 15, 2023 at 11:36 am #418768
thank you. You did put things into perspective and made me feel better.
I think this year for me is about releasing attachments and learning to count on myself more, giving myself self-love, getting rid of naivety about how people treat each other. I think the hardest part after this toxic relationship with my ex-boyfriend and conflicts with my girl friends is accepting or understanding my part in those relationships.
When it comes to the toxic relationship, I still think I might have done things differently. Though I guess no one is a saint when being constantly hurt. I know I became too much dependent on him.
As for my friendships, I feel because of the break-up I became too needy and they didn’t let me know that maybe I’m overwhelming them until it led to a conflict.
I feel very overwhelmed with those situations, plus looking for a job and taking part in job interviews. Some days I wish my brain just switched off for 24h at least. At times I see some progress, Reiki and meditation help me momentarily and I hope time will heal me.May 12, 2023 at 11:02 am #418541
Thank you Tee. I really appreciate your support here!
Yes, this relationship had a devastating impact on my self-esteem and even faith in humans. The ending was just disgusting to me…
As an empath, one really listens to your partner, is open to amend the behaviour so gaslighting makes one’s mind crazy. He would say I don’t give him space. But when we argued or I would voice my needs or concerns (I would state things calmly) he would shut down and normally either didn’t talk to me till I started a conversation or would just continue after some time as if nothing happened. So what could one do in such situation?
I’m a bit worried because next week I’ll be staying in the city where my best friend lives. Normally I always stayed in her place but as it seems she doesn’t want to host me I’m staying somewhere else. I’m a bit sad but also preoccupied how she will act when we meet. It’s just I don’t know how many disappointments I can take these days…I’m normally tougher but currently I feel vulnerable and broken.
I do listen and read resources about narcissism and toxic bonds. Than you for your recommendations.May 10, 2023 at 5:05 am #418475
thank you for replying.
So my last days have been pretty tough. After yet again hurtful behaviour of my ex-boyfriend, I blocked him everywhere on social media but he sent me an email that made me cry. He put all the blame on me, called me a narcissist, said he could sue me for the stuff I said to a common friend (though I didn’t even say those words). It made me cry because I can’t grasp or accept the fact that the guy I was so in love with now is threatening me like that. Also he acts like he’s the bigger person wishing me all the best, etc.
Also I miss the support I would normally have from my friends in such a situation. You are right, they are going through their own stuff but it’s just hard to be left on my own like that.
When it comes to work, I also agree with you. I think if I don’t get a job I’d like by the end of May, I’ll take whatever opportunity arises. I’m just worried how I’m gonna work being so anxious and with little energy.
Wishing you a great day,
AnnaMay 7, 2023 at 11:54 am #418362
no, I did spend some time with him in person before deciding to move to his country. I guess he was showing me his good side and mirroring me, what toxic people do..Plus, I did ignore a few red flags.
I hope soon I’ll be strong enough to cut contact with him altogether..
It’s just I’m even more lost now because I feel I’m losing two of my friends, one of them someone who I considered my best friend. I don’t go out, I have no money and barely any friends left here and being normally an active and joyful person, it’s hard to accept it. I hope to get a job at least soon, so that I could travel and afford a therapy.May 5, 2023 at 9:22 am #418200
thank you for your message.
I don’t know if he is a narcissist, probably he is. I think the worst thing in this relationship was his silent treatment and restlessness, later I noticed lack of empathy. He changed from a nice guy I thought he was to this cold stranger from one day to another. I lost money because I moved to his country and was without a job for some time. Now I’m back in my country but unfortunately I didn’t cut off all contact yet…
I feel numb and haven’t laughed in a long time. I’m giving myself time though. It’s just looking for a job in such state of mind is tough.May 4, 2023 at 11:29 am #418183
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Thank you Sarah. Your insights made me feel more positive today. I hope you will also feel better with the new meds!</p>
I’m already sharing my story but I think with this crisis I feel I’m in I closed off, hopefully just temporarily..May 2, 2023 at 4:32 am #418126
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Thank you Roberta. It’s beautifully written and I feel your warm energy from a distance. I’m trying to spend some time in the garden every day and do journalling. The biggest challenge is to feel hopeful and have a more or less clear mind to decide on what to do next.</p>
I feel somehow maybe we as humanity are in a shift now cause many people are suffering but at the same time transitioning to a better place. It’s just the time in-between is very hard. I’m grateful for forums and people like you.April 1, 2023 at 5:33 pm #416889
this thread and your message is pretty old but since sadly nobody replied I wanted to check that you are all right and things turned out better for you?
I’m also recently out of a relationship with a narcissist. Fortunately it didn’t last long and the abuse was less severe than yours but still, I never felt that bad before…
Your story is heartbreaking and you sound like a very strong person for standing up for yourself. I hope you found your healing path..