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AnnaParticipantHi Anita,
He basically meant to try one shot for experience and not to get myself drunk. Which is why he said he doesn’t want me to try if I don’t know to.He is also very moody. Based on his zodiac sign, he is moody and can seem to be hot and cold some days. I find it frustrating sometimes. Especially after when I think he is interested in me with the way he talks and behaves, I find him totally opposite the next hour.
Thank you for listening to me Anita. I couldn’t talk to anyone about my feelings and scared of being judged.
Anna
AnnaParticipantHi Anita,
Thank you for getting back to me. You are right. We are all using each other some way or the other. He never lied to me though or maybe he did and I just didn’t know since he live in Germany.
So yesterday he asked me to try some tequila shots with my friends. I don’t drink but my friends does. He said just to try but it’s okay if I don’t want to try. He then mentioned that he don’t like to pressure someone that he cares about. But then he said that’s technically everyone’s action. Don’t you find it off? Sometimes he would give mixed signals.
Not sure if I have mentioned before. We know each other’s whereabouts and schedule. We can be on a video call for 3-4 hours long till he switch off his lights to go to sleep.
Anna
AnnaParticipantHi Anita,
Sorry for the late reply.
I think you are right. We both could be emotionally attached to each other. I had to Google to understand that emotional attachment can happen to two individuals who aren’t in a relationship as well.
That’s correct. He had few failed relationships before so I guess which is why he doesn’t trust anyone anymore. He is in Germany and I am in US. We’ve known each other since small. We travel back and forth but it was nothing like this. We’ve never communicated the way we are communicating now. We tell each other our whereabouts too.
Part of me is afraid to ask him questions because he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years last summer. Is he just using me to get over her or…? But it has been a year. He did mentioned before that he has moved on.
Also, I find myself to be waiting for his messages or phone call/video chat. I find it comforting. However, I am not sure what this means to me as well. Have I developed an emotional attachment with him?
I will post some messages from him here when I find it confusing or messages that will give me mixed signals.
Anna
AnnaParticipantHi Anita,
That’s correct. To be honest, I am afraid to lose him. We’ve been texting each other so much that we are like in a relationship but of no title. Sometimes I wonder if it’s normal for a girl and a guy to be best of friends like that. Where you send good morning text to good night text every single day. I don’t even text my girlfriends like that. Which is why it makes me wonder what am I to him? Are we both falling for each other? or it’s normal?
I didn’t think of any questions yet to ask him. My mind is still all over the place and confused.
I am glad I found this forum where I could share my feelings.
Anna
AnnaParticipantHi Inky,
I agree with you. He probably view me as “safe” or maybe a backup plan if he can’t find anyone. But the only person he shares all his secrets are with me. Even his friends says he is a bit closed off to them.
Your question about if I would want to be in a relationship with him is he confessed. I say yes because I feel we connect somehow. I find myself sharing a lot with him as well. He’s like my most trusted person.
Anna
AnnaParticipantThank you so much Noor and Anita! This is helpful.
I am only scared it will ruin the strong friendship we have. He gets nervous when I don’t text him all day. He also mentioned no one could replace me and that he is grateful and blessed to have me in his life.
I will try to be brave some day and ask him the question.
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