Hey Amy,

I know it hurts and it really sucks. However, I agree with Anita. You felt good because you felt lovable and you are lovable now. You have to find that truth within yourself.

Also, when we feel unlovable we are more likely to put up with things that don’t feel good to us such as these red flags. I’m not sure if once a cheater always a cheater is true in every case, but i do know the other 2 red flags- intolerance of others and temper- are deal breakers for me. Ask yourself honestly, were these red flags things that you wanted, or were they things you thought you’d have to put up with because you feel he was the only one interested in you?

You are loveable and you do have more choices than you think. And you don’t have to settle for poor behavior because you think it’s the best you can get. Be choosy and most of all choose to love yourself.

Btw, dating is about getting to know people and deciding if they work well for you. It does suck that it didn’t work out- honestly it seems he wasn’t really what you wanted, nor were you what he wanted, but that is no reflection on you. That is the dating process working well. Not allowing you to spend too much time on someone who wasn’t right for you. Someone will come along and you will get nothing but green flags. I know it’s hard to believe that but keep working on loving yourself and putting yourself out there and it will work out eventually.

Ann

*I made some assumptions from what I sensed so feel free to take anything that feels right to you and discard the rest!