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    Thank you! That was so beautifully written. The love I was speaking of I think is that unselfish love, that even if it is not returned, I can STILL feel it and send it. I have forgiven him, I did that immediately and told him, he thanked me, it was a beautiful grace. As for dating again, I will think about what you have said. I know what I want in a mate and I think my lesson in all of this is to absolutely not settle, it was a beautiful taste of what is really out there. I do value myself and know that each of us deserve happiness and peace, and LOVE and the gift of this breakup was seeing that. And honestly, if he were to come back, I probably would not accept him unless there were major shifts in priorities and that takes much more than lip service. So I will continue to heal, continue to grow and be thankful for even the painful things in life, I think those are the times we do the most in growth. Blessings~
    IJ

    The “Love Drug”, that made me laugh but it is oh so accurate, we all crave that original love from Source and I think we spend all of our lives trying to recreate what and where we came from before birth. Just my thoughts!

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    Start over now. You cannot change the past, start being your own best friend now and you will find that like attracts like. What you put out, you get back. BE A GOOD FRIEND TO GET A GOOD FRIEND

    #52383
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    I had a similar situation, I dated a man for a few weeks and thought about moving the relationship forward but he was very hesitant to give some basic information about himself. I told him that I found that odd and we just did not speak again for a few weeks. I still thought of him fondly but I was not going to waste my time with someone that could not trust me. Then I had a little emergency at home, it was something that I knew he could help with so I texted him for assistance. He responded immediately and was helpful and much more forthcoming. We began to date again and then after a month, we became intimate. He was still guarded a bit but did disclose some things about himself. He said he had always put work above his family and children, he suffered terrible guilt due to this. He found it difficult to balance his life, etc. etc. Then a month or so later, the day of our next scheduled date, he sent me an email saying he had to end things with me, he had decided that he had to be a more active parent, his work was suffering, responsibilities were lagging, you get the idea. I was floored and very upset. Now a few weeks out, I see all the red flags that I had chosen to ignore, for all I know this man could be married, who knows? Any fantasy ideas I had about him were just that, a fantasy. So my advice to you, let this man go. Let all connection and expectation simply go. If he is meant to be with you then he will find a way. Men like to pursue, if you chase them, they loose interest and find you needy. I am sure he is aware of your feelings. Let him see you live well and if he wants you, he will find a way. Blessings and may you find peace.

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