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  • in reply to: Lost and Scared #94927
    Matty
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    @Ava

    Sorry to hear about the current circumstances you are in. I have never been in this position before, but i hope i can give some suggestions.
    As much as it’s enjoyable learning new things is, if it becomes so disruptive that it’s causing problems and impacted your life so perversely than you need to question the benefits of it at all. A lot of the time, when i have worked with others, the bonds i have with others that i work with, make the job enjoyable, not the other way around. When my mentors left where i worked, i realized that it was pointless staying since they were the reason i stayed to begin with. Maybe it’s like your situation? Because this issue is really affecting your self-esteem, confidence to perform and depressing you. Maybe speak to who is in charge and state (calmly) that unless you’re respected as a worker, than you will have to consider your future. No matter what happens, just be calm and know that you can walk out of that place whenever you want. That’s the power you have. Always remember you have power, it may not seem like it now, but everyone has power to change what they don’t like, that’s your right. you own your body and mind, not others. The fact that your professional life is bleeding into your personal one, means you need to evaluate what is more important to you. Which can you not live without? And i know that you need to and want to support your family, but you can’t do that if your emotional hurting all the time.
    I hope this was some what helpful, i can’t help feeling hopeless in this situation. I wish you the best. Good luck.

    in reply to: How do you stay grounded in your existence? #94926
    Matty
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    Hi Soulz,
    I guess what keeps me grounded is knowing that others before me have felt the same way. If i want to clear my head or something, i go back to things that make me feel stronger than anyone else (i don’t feel this way, i.e superior; just a way of building my self-confidence). I love learning languages, learning about philosophy, even helping and supporting others on numerous other web forums. Half the journey of life is learning how best to proceed, that’s what i believe.
    Matty

    in reply to: Struggling to fit in and connect #94925
    Matty
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    Chenai, Thanks for your words and advice. I will definitely try my best.

    in reply to: Struggling to fit in and connect #94924
    Matty
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    Hi Anita,
    Sorry i haven’t checked the thread in a couple of days. No harm done. From a childhood perspective, i had a very ordinary (yet enjoyable) childhood. I love my parents, they love me. They have never been anything but supportive of my choices and abilities. I do have a younger brother, but we aren’t that close, he lives away from home and finished university a while ago. I guess the logical question is why? We are two very different people, very different likes and interests. Also he isn’t the nicest person to be around!

    If anything my final 2 years of high school were very serious time in my life, i wanted a job and started an apprenticeship at the same time. So i guess i was different because a lot of my friends at the time were just hanging out and going to proms etc. I know, looking back that i regret not going to the prom or doing ‘guy stuff’, but i was either too busy or genuinely not interested at that time. I just focused on working and earning money. I personally feel this was the transition point of my life. For instance, i didn’t keep in contact with anyone after some time (when i graduated). Mainly because the guys i would hangout with at school didn’t have money, were always partying and complaining about university and assignments. I no longer had anything in common with them, besides the fact we went to the same school. Eventually everyone went their separate ways. From that point I have built relationships with people, but mainly those that i used to work with, but even those are more meetups every Christmas for lunch, since i no longer work in that particular industry, hence University.

    I guess i have always wanted friends like the ones i would see on TV. And i have met them throughout my life, but it’s always been quite fleeting. As i stated in a previous post, those people have pursed other lives and live abroad. Although social media makes it easier, it’s not really the same. I used watch the power rangers, teenager mutant ninja turtles, etc. the love they had for one another is what i always wanted. To be able to just be yourself, and understand who you are.

    For the morals and values part, it’s difficult to explain, because i don’t fully understand why i wrote that. I think i should of said that i relate more to older generations, like music, dress, character, one’s pride and self-respect (which is why when i was working most of the people i got along with were way older than myself). These kinds of concepts. I’m not saying that i identify as a man out of time, but simply that i find comfort in these kinds of things. Maybe because nowadays everything seems so chaotic and ruthless. The grass is always greener on the other side, right?

    Thanks for being interested, Anita.

    in reply to: Struggling to fit in and connect #94378
    Matty
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks for your reply, I have never been in a romantic relationship with anyone. I have always held the belief that if i struggle to make friends how could i possibly have a deep relationship with another. Although i have dated only a couple times, i have never been in a relationship. Truthfully, i scared if i ever was in a relationship, i just feel an unemployed 25 year old living with mum and dad as not exactly something a woman would be looking for.

    Matty

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