Hello Ladybug! I just joined this group today..and its funny because what led me here is along those very lines of what you’re talking about. Specifically, my frustration that there don’t seem to be more AUTHENTIC people out there! While no one likes a Debbie Downer, the eternally happy-go-lucky Polyannas can work a nerve just as much. I have struggled with certain people in my life who use platitudes or trite commentary when what I’m seeking is someone to really listen, really HEAR. Not quite the same as what you’re saying but my point is this: I find it far more interesting to see a true blue person, who stands true to their belief system than the oh-so ordinary sheep following the pack. I have no idea how to avoid the Circle o’ Fakery – it has been and will always be part of the scenery in all walks of life. I think the key is finding the right balance between respect for the other side and your self. I think we can smile without being over the top gushy and disingenuous. I think it’s great that you’re in this period of self-awareness and discovery – the world needs more of you!