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    Anna
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    I think everyone has had this friend. It is a really hard thing to listen to the same ol’ thing over and over. Is she asking for you advice? Is she just wanting to vent? Sometimes silence can speak the loudest..perhaps your lack of engaging and response will send a message that you don’t care to continue playing the same old record over and over. Maybe if she brings it up, you change the subject or suddenly have someplace to be. After awhile, she may gain some self awareness. I know from my own personal experience, back when I was younger and thought my lovelife was the end all, be all, I drove many a good friend away with my self absorption about rather unhealthy things. Part of this is due to simply being young but we must all teach people how to treat us..and if she gets the memo that you’re OVER it, perhaps this is a catalyst for change in HER. Best of luck!

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    Anna
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    Hello Ladybug! I just joined this group today..and its funny because what led me here is along those very lines of what you’re talking about. Specifically, my frustration that there don’t seem to be more AUTHENTIC people out there! While no one likes a Debbie Downer, the eternally happy-go-lucky Polyannas can work a nerve just as much. I have struggled with certain people in my life who use platitudes or trite commentary when what I’m seeking is someone to really listen, really HEAR. Not quite the same as what you’re saying but my point is this: I find it far more interesting to see a true blue person, who stands true to their belief system than the oh-so ordinary sheep following the pack. I have no idea how to avoid the Circle o’ Fakery – it has been and will always be part of the scenery in all walks of life. I think the key is finding the right balance between respect for the other side and your self. I think we can smile without being over the top gushy and disingenuous. I think it’s great that you’re in this period of self-awareness and discovery – the world needs more of you!

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