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February 25, 2015 at 4:15 pm #73277BobbieParticipant
I’ve been seeing a sweet Inidan man for the last 6 months (here in the U.S.), and to my surprise he just told me loved me last Friday. Well, this morning he left on a plane to India for two weeks about an arranged marriage to placate his parents. He told me that he’s 99.9% sure that he’s not going to agree to it, but reading this post now has me worried!
We’re both in our 30’s, and he has two children from a previous relationship (with an Indian woman here in the U.S.), so I’m not sure how serious this matter is. I do know that it will be a huge weight lifted off his shoulders as he keeps talking about all the fun things we’ll do together when he gets back. And where he told me he wasn’t interested in a relationship before, he now wants to call me his girlfriend. Understandably, I’ve only agreed to wait for him.
My particular predicament is that I’m not in love with this man yet, but that’s because he really hasn’t let me in whereas I’m more of an open book. I’m hoping that he comes back, un-betrothed, and we can really explore a relationship together. He’s so attentive, patient, understanding, helpful. I’ve never been with a man like him, and I’ve never had a relationship like this. I love spending time with him, but I have to admit I have trust issues and he has not been very forthcoming. Haha! I’m hoping this weight lifted off his shoulders will give him the freedom to be more open with me.
I’m not sure if anybody is interested in hearing this journey, but I can certainly keep you posted. I’ve honestly never reached out in this format, and I’ve only told two friends. Everybody else thinks it’s a business trip. So, it does feel good to share my thoughts and feelings here, but I’m just not sure it’s helpful or brings solace to the other hurting ladies on here. I might be joining you very soon! I already miss texting him throughout the day, and I’m trying to fill my schedule to keep myself occupied until he’s back.
Wish me luck please, and pass good vibes. I feel like this is a storyline in a movie, haha! I think I’m still in shock that this is happeneing right now. But at the end of the day, I do believe that everything happens for a reason. And I know that if he comes back to me, it doesn’t solve everything. Like, the fact that my white dad hates the idea of me dating outside my ethnicity, even though he was once married to my Mexican mother! I hope these two weeks FLY BY!
I would love to hear more about everybody here as well, as Shantigirl said! I really do feel for everybody here. I’ve been through some heart-wrenching heartbreaks in my time. I’ve been single for about 2 yrs, and I’m ready for love again! The best advice I can ever give anybody going through this is to keep your head up, and be alone for a bit and focus on yourself for a bit. And try not to bring whatever baggage you have to a new relationship – we all have it but it’s unfair to both parties involved. But you CAN find happiness again. You just have to let yourself…
Thanks for listening!