Hey Anita. Thanks for the input. I agree with you… I know that proceeding to “that” stage wouldn’t be good. In fact, I think we could end up hating each other plus of course it would be a huge disloyalty on my husband. I think I want him in my life even as a friend more than I want to sleep with him… well I mean I totally desire him but I genuinely value our friendship that I think jeopardising it (and obviously my marriage) isn’t worth it. I guess what you’re suggesting is that I move away from this job but quite honestly it’s not feasible and anyway… I actually don’t work in the same office location as him most of the time. It’s just so hard being around someone/being in contact with someone you crave but know you can’t have! Before I met him, I would never have thought my eye and mind would stray to another, I thought I was blissfully happy but perhaps I have changed. I think we all change over time? I honestly just want this man to be happy and I know he wants the same for me. Just wish I could have a guilt free one night gratification which of course isn’t possible!