Hey there Zita,

You’re not alone in feeling this, so please don’t worry.

It’s a tough one to shift your focus, and to forget, but that is a tribute to the love in your heart, that you felt so much for this person and that you feel thoroughly disappointed about the way things turned out and the horrid way in which he treated you. I went through the same thing and I too feel the way you do….and it’s been a year now – so it can be a long hard road. But it does get less frequent, it does get better with the passing of time. What you need to think is that whatever wrong was done to you, it was a reflection of the other person, of their own insecurities and their own lack of love and compassion. It’s not about you, you are beautiful. They will quite probably do the same to another until they learn to respect all living creatures, including themselves.

Hang on in there, keep working on yourslelf, know that you are not alone in this and that there is no ‘right time’ to be over it, let it be, accept it, feel and acknowledge your feelings both positive and negative and I will do the same. And together, you and I and all the others who are going through the same thing will get out of this with a bigger heart, more compassion, and a greater potential to love, and to be loved.

Much love to you

Chris

Dear Susan,

Those were indeed beautiful sentiments, as Matt said. It resonated with me greatly as that is how I too felt when I broke with someone I loved very much. I never got to communicate those things to her either, there was far too much bitterness and recrimination at the time. Almost a year later and I still wonder if I should, but perhaps that would only open old wounds. The fact that I read your words and understand your own experience have indeed helped someone else. May that inner smile glow a little brighter today, thank you.

Namaste
Chris