I am having a similar problem. I have been with my husband for 32 years we met at 18 & 19 and are now both 50. We have a 15yo and 10yo. In the middle of March one night in bed he told me he was not happy. He had been talking with a woman from work for a few months (she is also married) and had an emotional affair. I said we should go to counseling and he agreed. It has been several weeks of 2 90 minute couples therapy sessions and he still feels empty and disconnected from me. He told me he has been pretending for years but can’t anymore. I was shocked. I was initially hopefully we could reconnect but today he said he feels apathy so not sure there is coming back from that.