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July 28, 2020 at 5:24 pm #363062
Thank you for responding! My codependency displayed itself in both ways: I dropped everything to care for him, and wanted him to do the same for me. From the very beginning of our relationship he never had any issue with telling me no. Which is good. He did what he could always and always let me know he loved me.
I fear no one will love me in the way he did, no one will be there for me consistently, no one will ever want to date/marry me. I feel like being in a relationship is my purpose and without that I feel hopeless.July 28, 2020 at 4:39 pm #363051
Everything you’re saying makes sense. Although he told me that he does have strong romantic feelings for me. I believe him. I know he loves me a lot. I agree that I shouldn’t place him a pedestal though. I always placed him on one, and I know it is because I feel incomplete and like I have no purpose without being in a relationship with someone.July 28, 2020 at 3:27 pm #363042
He doesn’t want to be in a relationship at all because he said he felt like he lost himself in our relationship. He wants to take time to find himself again and focus on his career. He is open to a friendship, but I am not open to that yet. He is able to conceal his romantic feelings for me, whereas I am not. He does want me in his life and I want him in mine, but not if we aren’t on the same page be it friendship or otherwise. It hurts too badly to be around him if we aren’t together as a couple because I am still holding onto those feelings.
I know I need to heal from codependency, and I could tell I was projecting upon him. Which is another reason I pulled away. His main focus right now is his career, and my main focus has always been relationships. I hope that makes a little more sense?July 28, 2020 at 2:02 pm #363023
Thank you for your response! I say that because he genuinely wants me to be happy. He wants me to succeed and love myself and heal. I do want all the same things for him, but I feel like i’m having more trouble letting him go than he has of letting me go. At least it seems that way. He told me that it isn’t easy, he just doesn’t talk much about how hard it is.