I appreciate this post. I’ve been accused by my wife of being “angry” for years and this has made me angry… frustrated. I too share a similar experience growing up even though I am ~15 years older – picked on for years.
I never considered this could be a root cause. Perhaps it is. Perhaps she has been more tuned in and accurate on that call than I care to admit. Your post… it’s gotten to me. I feel this pain also.