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    Mia
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    Hi @bpkhss Everything in my mind now, you said it exactly.

    How I still love him and hope the best for him.
    How I wish he would open his mind and heart and outgrow his religious view

    We are in a pretty same state of mind. If it should have, then it would have. ME too, getting busy with works and project… distract my mind for a while. Feel blessed with all happened in my life. Even sometimes it hurts like hell.

    #73312
    Mia
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    @Alf

    I 100% agree to what you’ve said. For me religion is only label. That’s why I don’t mind if he continues being a Moeslim for the rest of his life. And all I ask from him, please let me believe what I believe… we have been a couple for 5 years and so far it has not been an issue for us. But when it comes to a marriage… He said he can’t go further anymore. No compromise. No tolerance. Because the Qoran and his God doesn’t allow it.

    As a Buddhist, of course his decision sounds ridiculous and frustrating for me.. but as you said, no matter how I put it, how I tried to make him see this, he just couldn’t see what I see. He made his own choice. He chose to let go of me. No mater how much he loves me… he is determined to do this.

    And in the end, we have to walk on our own path… and the best thing to do is, being positive in every way I could.

    #73297
    Mia
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    I just finished read the whole thread… and we are/were all once in the same situation.


    @Strawberry
    it must be painful for you, to know he’s dating someone, moreover with different culture and religion, I believe the big WHY haunted you at that time.


    @bpkhss

    We are pretty much in the same frequency… eveyr thoughts you have in mind, I have it too..

    I just can’t understand why he said he wants me to be happy, he doesn’t want me to waste my time anymore, I should find someone better to be my husband. He said he loves me enough to let me go.

    How could he say that, while in this moment, my happiness is being with him? How could he say that he loves me, while the fact that he leaves me has shattered everything inside me? I’ve read many self help articles and books during this hard time, it helps me to steel my heart to face my future.

    I choose not to hate him, still love him, and keep positive thinking flowing, no matter how impossible it may seem.

    #73294
    Mia
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    HA!!!!

    When I read your post it feels like I’m reading my own story in real life. Never thought that anyone somewhere in this world has a similar feeling and experience with me. The difference is I’m a Buddhist and the one that I love so dearly is a Moeslim.

    We didn’t become a couple in an usual and easy way. He sacrificed a LOT to get my heart and to make me feel this deep towards him. At the first time we met, he wasn’t as religious as now. He assured me that we can handle this difference. He will fight for us.

    5 years of wonderful time with him has passed… We are getting into late 20 and he starts to think about marriage and settle down. His love didn’t change a bit. But his religiousness has improved tremendously… and the aftermath… he let go of me. 🙁

    He wants to marry me, but Islam doesn’t allow it. He wants me to convert. But I can’t. It’s about faith and believe system. I can’t imagine myself being a Moeslim. And I will hurt the relationship between me and my parents for sure. In the end, he feels that there’s no way out for us, he wants to move on, he wants me to move on as well, he cut the rope.

    I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago, after 5 years together. It feels like hell and stuffs (brokenheart stuffs) I couldnt stop crying.

    And strangely, just like you, I’m a fighter, I’m not easily give up or feeling down in life, but this broken relationship struck me like nothing. I had a breakdown for 2 weeks. Cry in everyplace, because every place reminds me of him, of how sweet and great we were.

    Now, I’m more composed, but it doesn’t mean the pain is less…

    I’m happy to find this thread. It’s all start from when I search about “How to combat negative thought” and I landed to one article in tinybuddha… It’s very relatable to me.

    Then on the right side, I see this thread… I opened it. My jaw dropped… there’s nothing such a coincidence… I’m meant to join this forum and read the empowering comments here

    I really love all the comments here… Will reply again soon, I need to get back to work first.

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