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    Kitty
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    I was serving food to my kids and my bro in law’s kid also asked for food and I already had a plate in my hand and I replied wait let me finish this one and this wasn’t liked by my mom in law and she pointed this out in front of everybody. I was deeply hurt and said this lady has something against me. This remark irked everybody and she started crying and everybody started talking in her favour

    #48761
    Kitty
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    Hello Matt.
    I had gone to my in laws place for a family get together for New Years. My bro in law & sis in law & their kids had also come down from USA . I tried to keep calm and quiet and not feel angry or upset about their behaviour but on Thursday my mom in law passed a very nasty remark on the lunch table that i did not serve my bro ther inlaws kids and was only paying attention to what my kids wanted, This statement ripped me apart and i started crying a lot. and i said i dont know what this lady has against me . This was enough to trigger everybody against me and she used this line as a sympathy weapon and obviously her sons took her side and as usual i was left alone. This lead to a major conflict at home and my hubby left no stone unturned to malign me.

    At this juncture i feel miserable and dont know what to do.

    Pls advice

    #46300
    Kitty
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    Thanks Matt for replying !

    Pls advice me how to show love when i am feeling miserable.
    He calls me infertile even after knowing that he did not want any kids in future from me to avoid any kind of insecurity to his kids .He treats me like a door mat in front of his kids, last evening he punched me for increasing the TV Volume when he was talking to his boss in USA, and i did that to indicate that pls go inside & talk and he terms it as a trap which i laid for him? How should i deal with this
    Pls guide me how to keep patience and show compassion and curb my anger & anxiety ?

    I hate to break realtionships and i am not stubborn. Even after any ugly incident i wake up every morning on a new note. Is there any no i can call you ?

    #46240
    Kitty
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    Hi Matt,
    Thanks for replying !
    I was trying to adjust with his daughter but couple of incidents like passing on wrong information to her mom rough emails, writing nasty things about me to a friend on a social networking site etc etc.

    This has scarred me deeply and when i spoke to my in laws about this they had no compassion towards me instead they were telling me to be patient with her.
    We were supposed to attend a family wedding but my husband chose not to go citing reasons as to how kids will stay alone for 2 days and then later saying when we are fighting so much then whats the point of smiling in public. This also hurt my sentiments . His brother has come from US and we were all supposed to go and meet him end of december but now i told him that as per your decision i will not go because you chose not to be seen together in public,

    My mom is due for a surgery in mid week december and i expected that my husband will also accompany me to be by my side but he has no plans of doing so !

    I am asking what all should i let go ?? There are plenty of expectations from me what abt my expectations , if he doesn’t fulfill it then who ? Divorce is a social stigma & i am scared of what the world will say ???

    I am really confused what i should do and how i should behave !

    Pls guide

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