Anita  thank  you  and I will  have  to let  this all take  its course but I am  very mindful of what you say and it is a reality  I  will have   to accept. Regarding what you said (easier to  just copy it and repost here)  “how do I forget what he said”- I don’t think you can forget. Maybe what he said will not bother you much or at all in the future, but you’ll probably remember it. I must forget what he said in order to move forward if we  are  to remain good platonic friends. I don’t want to remember his  words and  I don’t want to remember  how he looks like naked whenever I see him in the future. I am thinking maybe  as Brandy said his accusation of me  violating his privacy is because he is afraid I am going to view him different now or Im always going to remember something so personal about  him and thus his reference about me knowing  how he  shaves his private area was  said defensively and not with malice although it hurt me and was very inappropriate and disrespected  my  good  intentions to help him because  I care.  I  don’t know  but I  want to give him the  benefit if the doubt  and  hope time heals  this situation.

Anita hi thank you for the great advise so appreciated! Are you near our age? I am giving him time he hasn’t called or text me back yet. I will write a note or card as you said and try that. His words were hurtful and Im still upset by what he said to me and accusing me of invading his privacy when I tried to explain that I didn’t care if he was naked I only wanted to help him.  I tried to reassure him that he still had his privacy. I wont use his words because they were crude and disrespectful but he said no I violated his privacy he made reference to how he keeps himself (his hair “there”).  I feel embarrassed and not ready to write yet but I will if this continues. everything is worst because  this lockdown has everyone so stressed and crazy. I realize hes ashamed and he was drunk people say things they don’t mean when drinking but why would he accuse me of violating his  privacy or make reference to how he chooses to shave that area that’s his business  its personal and I don’t  care! Anita how do i  forget what he said shouldnt  he apologize  to me also?  but I  feel guilty  now  and need to figure this all out. Thank  you for your great suggestions. Is there anything else you recommend.