anita how old r  u I know a lot older

HI ladies Anita and Brandy hope u  are well !

Hi A and B! Hope you all are ok. Sadly my friend and  me  have distanced. This pandemic did more hurt. he actually  now moved in with his cousin about  35 miles away I guess that’s good. He never got over me  seeing him naked. Male pride dignity all that I guess.  As for me yes OCD is still a challenge and it might’ve had something to do with it but I never wanted to share his personal privacy or describe how he keeps  himself for any other reason but to explain and  understand. its in the past now. Ive been  staying secluded mostly until things get better with the pandemic. Anita u gave me a lot of advise and information I   appreciate that. From time to time over the months since I  had a couple dreams remembering  the  situation and seeing it exactly as it was. In one recent dream hes saying don’t look please don’t look and I lie I say no I wont im not seeing anything I promise yet I look and see  everything as I saw it exactly knowing it was wrong and when i woke i felt so guilty as if it just happened it was so real.  I guess that happens but why and whats wrong with my mind in sleep those couple  times. kaycee

Hii Anita things are going ok still the same. I went back and read all the messages here u and Brandy what did you mean in your last message? There is nothing going on and I don’t want more than friendship. None of it was sexual i just said what happened. I didn’t and im not focus on his “down there” Im not turned on because I saw how he keeps his hair there I just said what he said and explained his comment meant how he shaves there. That’s all.  How did u learn about yourself?

Hi anita I understand and apreciate your reply (all your replies). your right about alot I think i want to just move forward from this. I realize I said maybe to much about his privacy and that tmi is not intentional I guess  its my ocd. The topic as you say may sound sexual in nature but the entire incident wasnt sexual at all nor my thoughts or even his  comment. I mightve made you think that but its not.  And I do understand all u said about the focuses in ocd as it relates to sexuality and self image. Im 25 mine started in my teens it was appearance self image insecurity self consciousness all that. Dont want to get further into it. Thanks for all your helps  and advice. Thank U KC

Anita and Brandy we spoke  finally and worked things out.  We mightve  both  been wrong to a extent but we are forgetting it and moving forward.  he owned upto his comment  being disrespectful and inappropriate and explained he said it out of being defensive that I saw how he looks.  I suppose I need to also respect his feelings that he lost his privacy and knowing how he keeps his hair there is as personal as  it gets. He understood my side and thanked me for coming to help him not knowing what happened but I gave his key back its just  best that  way. Thanks to you both for your help and advise. Im dealing better with this lockdown as well Ive started to learn how to cook besides ordering pizza!! lollol.

Brandy idk why I asked its his business. this has all been so difficult. I know some men choose to groom that area just as we females do. I don’t have a bf now not for a while but my ex did also. I guess to clarify it  was what he said to  me about how he keeps his hair not  that the fact that he chooses to shave some..not all.. of his hair there. did  that make any sense at all