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January 21, 2014 at 10:09 am #49477
Love your response Helen!January 21, 2014 at 8:36 am #49471
I was in a similar position a few years ago. I didn’t have any real direction, career-wise and I was really unhappy. I’ve always had this intense yearning to earn a living through making a positive difference in the world. I want to be happy while working, which a lot of people give up on or cast aside as silly and unrealistic. I’ve never been able to give up on that idea, though.
The problem for me was that I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted to do. I’m interested in lots of different things, so I went in a few different directions and tried some things that I thought would make me happy, but none of them really fit and felt right.
After some soul searching and lots of research, I finally found the perfect career for myself.
I work with busy moms, helping them create amazing outcomes in their life. Whether it’s improving their health, relationships, or self image (or any other area of their life), I educate and counsel them to get to the place they long to be. It’s amazing, and affects me just as much as it affects my clients. I love, love, love what I do and I can’t imagine doing anything else. I feel that this work uses all of my skills and gifts and encourages me to grow in my weaker areas. It’s pretty great.
I wish this same thing for you, M@ry. Everyone should light right up when they’re pursuing their dreams.
I think it’s incredibly important to get in touch with what you’re passionate about and if need be, create a career for yourself. It isn’t always easy being self employed, but the benefits are pretty amazing. Now, you may not have any real interest in taking on entrepreneurship, but I think if you just focus on what you love-not just on what feels safe, I think you can figure out what career you should pursue.
As far as saving money for retirement, there’s a massive abundance of information on the internet that you can use to educate yourself on how to save. I’m still learning all of that myself. You have time, too. Yes, it’s important to start as early as possible, but you can still make a comfortable retirement happen.
Pursuing your dreams is soo very important in this life. I hope this helps you find what you’re looking for. 🙂
~CozettaJanuary 20, 2014 at 12:05 pm #49413
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a hard time with your mom. It can be pretty painful when you don’t have loving support from your parents. No matter your age, it’s nice to know that they still have your back, love you unconditionally and don’t make your life and your decisions about them.
I’ve had quite a few issues with forgiveness myself, with a variety of people. It can feel safer to hang on to that anger-you feel protected from future hurts from that person. While this may work for a while, it just ends up hurting you. I think it’s really great that you’re seeking to forgive.
I’ve had the most success freeing myself from anger and hurt feelings by really spending time proactively working on it.
Here are my best tips:
*Meditating, getting quiet and freeing my mind
*Writing things out-journals can be so therapeutic
*Talking things out with those I trust
*Taking care of yourself with the basics-healthy foods, daily movement, lots of water etc.
I’ve found that these things can be really great, but they don’t always create the change I’m looking for. They can help lighten the load though, for sure.
This next tip has been really helpful to me. It’s something I’ve been practicing for only a short time, but it’s helped me have some amazing results with forgiveness. I don’t know if you’ve heard of it or not, but it’s worth researching and learning about. It’s called the Emotional Freedom Technique, or Tapping. Nick Ortner has written a great book about it-I just finished it, actually. Check out his website and see if it can help you. http://www.thetappingsolution.com
I also wrote a blog about forgiveness a while ago. It may help.
Good luck to you Sarah. I hope this forum helps you create the peace your heart is craving. 🙂