hello – this is essentially my story – but I am the man and the woman is walking away from me – i am also having real trouble finding closure – it has even surprised me how difficult this has been – like you i had some concerns – but she assured me she wanted me – I was the greatest thing to happen to her, etc etc – in fact, here are some of her words …”I’m happier now that I have you in my life…more than I’ve been in a long time. I’m excited to put in the work that it takes and make the changes that need to happen so that we can be a team..” – “I really do want you to know how lucky I feel to have you in my life. Not sure what I did to deserve such a loving and wonderful man”…”I do love you, and I can’t remember being quite this happy in a relationship before. In my own humble opinion….we were meant to find each other for some reason…there are more that are similar -she wanted a family with me – the whole bit…like you we moved in together – and things seemed to unravel and it was a struggle to make it a year – I just don’t understand what women/people want/expect – i have been in the same job for 18 years – am well educated with multiple degrees and a 2 graduate degrees as well – obviously i am emotionally aware (because I have found this site 🙂 ) am willing to talk and work through things – I am faithful – like you there were struggles but also a real connection – then slowly she says she just grew unhappy without really an explanation as to why…i am still searching as well – probably too hard – i recently watched “the secret” – i might suggest you do the same – you can find it on netflix – thanks for listening and hope for the best for you…