Dear Aiko: If it is true that you had anxiety all your life (“I’ve had anxiety all my life”, previous thread), then “I want to be me at my best, sociable, charming, adaptable, courageous, fierce… not just 10% of the time as usual but I want to be this way most times!”- is an unrealistic expectation for yourself. Here is an example of what I think is a more realistic expectation: I want to get better, over time, gradually. To be genuinely sociable at times, authentic, courageous and patient with myself. anita[/quote]

This right here. Also trust me, people see you, and they don’t care, they mind their business, as should you.

I’m curious how your previous friend made you feel lonelier that you were? I don’t understand that. Cheers