I just wanted to add a voice to the conversation taking place. Reading through these threads over the past 30 minutes or so has shaken my soul. I’ve been searching, reading, praying and meditating, surrendering to God to find some direction on how to deal with my mother. I come from a dictator type non-nurturing relationship with my mother only to be countered by a nurturing (sometimes emotionally quiet) caregiving father. As a sensitive child growing up, I was attune to tone, diction, and intense body language, which my mother’s parenting style catered towards aggressive behavior I couldn’t understand. I too have hidden and latent anger towards the nurturing environment I so wanted even though I had security, stability and some “stuff”. I relate with your struggles Victoria and just wanted to say you are not alone.