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May 20, 2014 at 2:37 pm #56660
I went through my own betrayal this year and I am still working through my own journey. I learned that my ex has “gaslighted” (which is a interesting topic) me into doubting my own instincts as well. I have learned to forgive by first removing myself from his influence and focusing on learning to hear my own inner voice. I went to school, connected with old friends, allowed myself the permission to cry, and be sad. Then I realized that we have only so much time on this world and I wanted to focus on the love I was receiving from others instead of the love I was being declined.
Another shift for me was learning to trust my gut when working with others and that action is a better indictor of character then words. I will never know what part of the relationship was real and which was an act but that is on him. How someone treats you is an indictor of their character not your value.
Please be gentle with yourself and give yourself more time to process all this information. One thing that helped me was to change your ex’s name on your phone to “teacher” because he had taught me alot about what I wanted and needed to be happy.May 7, 2014 at 3:32 pm #55968
Thank you everyone for your advice.
I had a night to think it over and realized that it is not needed for me to move on. I have been hurt enough and I need to start doing what is best for myself. Making contact somehow removed the hold that was there from before. I don’t feel the same rage at all. I am going to refocus on loving and accepting myself.
Thanks againMay 6, 2014 at 9:53 pm #55939
Thank you so much for your insight. I am not expecting any understanding from him. The funny thing is that I almost had a repeat myself with another controller but thankfully a stolen cell phone prevented us from meeting. I wish so much that he could be able to truly connect with people but I guess that we all have our own battles to fight.
Thank you again,