Hello Saurav,

First of all many apologies for being unable to respond “in time”. It was/is my turn be taken away by work blablabala.

I WAS AND I AM SO HAPPY and PROUD of you! This is a beautiful summary of such wise thoughts and state of mind! Congratulations! There is almost nothing to add just “to enjoy the positive vibration and calmness of sole” that comes though what makes me enjoy and thus share your moment of victory on the mind and ego!

To “accompany you” on some upcoming trips if any here I forward a link reference:

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It wasn’t be me if I had not find something to comment on, so here it comes ;-D

As you stated too, the pain and its degree is created by our mind/ego thus how long it lasts also depends on our decision how frequently we let ourselves enter this swampy field of negative, pulling down, sucking you all in spiral like emotions that comes with it.
As I love myself,
but also being human I have this “sado-masochistic” game with self pettiness and crying etc. , and as it takes lots of energy out of you physically and emotionally as well,
I learnt to “give direct order” to my mind to stop being there (in the spiral) or “reminding my mind”: heh man “it is you who wants to wallow in the mad of this emotional and confused state of mind”.
These orders help me redirect my focus and regain control (not suppressed but balanced) of my emotions.

Also, if there is a very strong feeling that I cannot absorb, digest at present, I “offer” it to the Universe/God(s) etc. to deal with and, at the same time, I will kindly request/wait for a solution of any kind to arrive from any direction as momentary it is beyond my abilities, capacities to handle the situation.

One of the new messages I clarified in me was that there is NO NEED FOR EXPECTATIONS when talking about another person. Be complete yourself, find your weaknesses, recognise, accept embrace them and start to work on them; set your own boundaries and expectations for yourself and look for a person who SHARES the SAME values, looks into the world with the same eyes, is heading to the same direction and is a COMPLETE person not a complementary of any kind. Knowing yourself more will allow you to realize what you want from your life and start to create your world and reality accordingly.

WE ARE GODS. EACH OF US IS A PERFECT REPRESENTATION OF WHAT GOD IS REGARDLESS TO THEIR “LEVELS”. (THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM AS THEY HAVE TO FACE WITH THEIR DEMONS) THE POWER OF CREATION IS OURS. BUT WE MUST REMAIN ONE WITH GOD IN OUR SEPARATION AS THE BLESSINGS COMING FROM ABOVE IN THE FORM OF LITTLE MIRACLES ARE MORE IF YOU ARE IN ALIGNMENT WITH YOUR ROLE OF TODAY IN GOD’S GREAT PLAN BLABLA…..

oke, I thought I would be short .. could not make it-again!!!

Ah, one more thing.

We have full control on our words and actions only.
Mind your words as they are the signature on your contract through your subconscious towards the Universe signalling what you believe in and thus what you want and expect to happen…And the Universe delivers promptly without any questions or concerns. All is yours with full guarantee..

Well that is all for now for today.

I would like you to give me an explanation for the ” (P.S. Is it chemical…I have serious doubts…??” as I could not “translate” its reference/meaning to my self
(lack of capacities. hehhee…)

Take care and blessings to you too.

Eli

Hi Saurav,

Sorry for being “so long” away. Thank you for your kind words. I believe I am on the right path to make things better for myself and all around -just the way “you sound” you are.

I am so happy that I could contribute to someone’s “inner balance” “out there” this way as well. There were two reasons I “registered” (maybe a hidden third exists but that was “initiated by my subconscious” for myself*) to this blog.
One was the way you explained your problem, while the second was your last question asking for help: “anyone”?
As I know from experience how it feels to be “left alone” without anyone around who “seems” to be “good, adequate” etc. enough to “show a way out”, and as I strongly felt that I had things to say, thus it was a kind of “obligation” for me to do so. (The first time ever via blog).

Anyway, I will travel next weekend too. I am going to have a very busy 2014 to “clean situations up” and to get ready for something new and better.

Will talk to you -my friend.

Take care, “do the work” and best wishes to you too!

Eli

Ps.: *Due to my registration to Tiny Buddha I discovered other very useful sites as well helping me out of my “turbulent moments” hehee. Pay-back: ticked!..

Saurav, have you received this message from me sent to you 2 days ago?

“Saurav thank you for considering me a “new” good friend, as I had similar feelings towards you. Honesty always, ALWAYS, pays off. For your question not asked: I am female and to be 40 this year, virgo hehehe, apologies in case there was no such question at all). Please, allow me some time to react on your “small last thing” a bit later as I am myself deeply involved in my turbulent emotional moments and now MY case has the Priority for app. two days and thus I cannot focus “well enough” on other issues… will be back soon then OK?!”

Anyway, I am back.

So rereading your last message my impression was that you have the “basic problem of fear” that most of the people share. As we are given the power of creation, we have to be careful with our thoughts, desires and fears as creation starts “up” there and in our minds. What you have your thoughts around and your feelings attached to will affect the reality you are (subconsciously first) creating that, sooner or later, will manifest .

If you fear loss, it is going to take place.

It is good and necessary to be cautious to avoid accidents etc. but fear means that you are awaiting something bad to happen, and depending on how strong your fear is you start “preparing” yourself for the situation with “action plans”. Being able to see “options” is good. Being emotionally attached to the case of the “worst case” scenario is contra productive, and works like an “invitation” as “this is what you are believing in the most and expecting to take place” so universe sais: “let it be”.

Your desire for the “something very exclusive” is weaker than your “fear of loosing it soon”.

Full happiness is momentarily. “Keeping happiness in our lives” is a continuous work including many difficult times. (But who the H..ll cares hard work if it pays off well -with many appy “moments” hehe)

Create your own “watch dog” of thoughts and feelings then replace negative thoughts and feelings with “affective” ones or simply ignore their “existence” saying e.g. “delete, delete”.
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One of our goals on Earth is to be happy on “our OWN merit” and shine our happiness onto others, sharing it with those who are receptive.

When I love somebody, I am happy for his/her happiness either it is in line with my-whatever-my-idea-might-be-on-the issue” or not.

If you love and respect me, you accept my choices as they are. You have the right to express your disagreement or your “doubting” feelings of any kind might you not agree with my choices, and that is it.

So all this is for your thoughts with regard to your Dad- as well.

I believe with death we “just” change dimension, leaving our bodies here while our soul continuous its existence “somewhere else”; thus whenever you have a thought of , question to, or moments to share with your Dad, he IS there in his spirits and provides you answers his way -if any.

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What we do is what we think to be the best solution that given moment. At a later time in the future we might realise, understand that there were better options but WE were not ready yet, they were not the part of OUR “truth” yet. And it does not matter at all. In the future, if one is wise enough, the recognition and identification of the similarity between past and present situations (e.g.: with the help of the above mention “watch-dog”) we can have better choices then previously we had.

Off I go now…

Good, now imagine my big smile on my face and that I am adding a tick to my “today’s good deed” list… hehe Cheers

Hi there, I have registered just now, “just” for you… ;-D… so reading the above my impression in brief is: 1/in your mind you are 200% over of the lady, 2/you are still feeling guilty for leaving her 3/your emotions are not following the decision of your mind as “fast” as you “need” it, as the logic of your brain would “dictate” (normal) 4/you wanted to experience calmness of your soul “immediately” but it is not happening (again) as fast as you “believed” it would/should take place 5/you are still attached (normal) and thus not fully concentrating on what is (a)waiting for you “in the future”. Suggestions: give yourself, your emotions more time to “accept” facts at all levels, let yourself feel happy for your freedom, embrace failure of relationship, praise your dedicated time “sacrificed” on its altar, let the lady recover on her own with HER friends from the situation, make a decision on the limits you might be “available” for help, or just simply move out of her life…