Matt,

This was very insightful, thank you for taking the time to respond and help me. I really took to heart how Buddha reacted to the man and that is such a simply and intelligent way to go about it. I know that the right and better thing to do would to not have his cousin effect me because he himself is just upset with how certain things in his life are that he feels the need to project his anger onto my relationship. Like Buddha said, the anger does not belong to the buddha but to the man so why be personally upset. Such a great way to think about things!

Thanks!
Caitlyn 🙂

Matt,

My boyfriend and his cousin are extremely close, so when his cousin will do something hurtful towards him and I, it is hard for him to stand up for our relationship or for me because he is afraid of causing more issues (my boyfriend also just doesn’t like confrontation in general, I on the other hand am the complete opposite). He is a Libra and I am an Aries and that kind of speaks for itself lol.

As of now, the two of us are both in school so we won’t be moving closer to one another anytime soon, just continue to visit each other as much as we can. We are very serious about each other and we see a long future ahead of us and his family knows that as well. I just want to be able to enjoy the time I spend with his family instead of having this weight on my shoulders every time I spend time with them and I want to learn how to handle the situation with his cousin in a more positive light.

Much appreciated,
Caitlyn 🙂