Thank you for your reply!
I’ve been doing the best I can, I must admit that a lot of past memories still plague me. Her and I did text each other but it wasn’t on the note I wanted to leave, she mostly told me how horrible I was to him and so forth.. I recently wrote her an email about extending my love out to her too and told them if they need a meal, or to be bailed out of jail I could help out, most of all I welcomed both of them to a cup of coffee in the future when all of us have healed fully. I don’t know if the email was ridiculous on my part, but I must say that I at least tried to get over my ego, accept pain and be a friend to both of them. For the time I’ve known him, his family turned the other cheek whenever he needed help. So, I can’t stand the idea of no one being there for them because of a stupid past romantic history. So, Whatever their judgements of me are I’m to the point where I don’t care anymore, everyone can be pissy and grumble all they want but, I tried the only way I knew how, I’m human and it was me reaching out. As Vonnegut says “so it goes..”, and I’m welcoming compassion for the human race every day.