Hello @Michael!
For starters, I am truly sorry that someone had to resort to being harsh with you and to hurt you. One of the main reasons why I do not reach out to my ex is because he already told me what I had to hear. I know that if I contact him I am only exposing myself to more hurtful words and BS. I know that I am a good person and I know that I gave it my all, at the end of the day he had already made up his mind about not wanting to be with me so there was nothing I could do. And why would I even want to do more for someone who did not open up or appreciate me as a person? I am still recovering and I am still “under construction,” but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. As for her telling you that you never made her happy, well that just sounds like someone who has chronic dissatisfaction and you have to know that you should be able to make yourself happy and to surround yourself with happy and positive people. Remind yourself that you, more than anyone else you know, deserves to be happy.

This post could not have come at a better time for me. My seven year relationship ended about a month ago for good. He broke up with me and his reason was that he was “not in love” anymore. Seeing as how we were getting ready to move in together and take our relationship to the next level, the break-up came out of left field. But, I accepted that as his reason and I feel that I am moving on and focusing on myself and my needs and working towards discovering who I am as a newly single woman. However, a couple of my friends and family members have been asking how I could possibly be satisfied with his reasoning. They tell me that there has to be a bigger and deeper reason as to why he left me. But I don’t care to know. There could be a million reasons as to why he decided to leave me, but the fact alone that he LEFT me is reason enough to let him go. It’s like getting directions somewhere and there are different routes and highways and roads that you can take, but at the end of the day you are still going to arrive at the same destination. I made the decision to cut off contact with him 100%, luckily we do not have any mutual friends or kids or anything that will tempt me to dig deeper and understand why he left because I simply do not want to know. I am glad that there are others out there who can accept “closure” simply.