Dear Anita. I can totally relate, I myself enjoy going to the park and being between the trees and the birds. That’s all there is really.

Can I ask how do deal with loneliness, I’m personally not feeling good in my skin, I’m just seeking external validation.

My sister said to work on myself or I’ll be stuck in such relationships patterns.

I’m really glad you are enjoying friend, enjoy the nature, the trees, the wind to the fullest.

Hoping to hear from you soon

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita, thank you.

It just hurts to think that’s she must be getting physical with someone else, someone she doesn’t know, doesn’t have a connection with. Maybe people, some women are just like that (sorry if I’m sounding sexist, I know the same applies to many men too).

Any advice?

Hoping for you reply soon.

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita.

You have summarised very well. She kept calling me throughout the day, I have chosen to let her go now, no replies. E has no interest too to handle B’s panic attacks and he has blocked both of them from everywhere, he’s heartbroken too. I pray for him everyday.

I’m sorry Anita, you had to go through retrospective jealousy, it’s a tough situation to be on. I hope you are all well now.

It’s hard to let go of someone, when you know things could have been so different, but it is what it is.

Hoping for your reply soon. Anita, I would like to hear some words of comfort at the moment, that I will be okay, I can also attract good mates, fun relationships, and good career. I hope you can talk to me truthfully. Thank you friend.

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita, thank you for your replies.

Yes I did have retrospective jealousy with SK, but I no longer suffer from it. I think that’s a wound I would love not to scratch again.

No, I am only jealous of the sexual activity right now, i did not care about previous things, never gave it any energy.

SS called me 50 times yesterday night and texts because her best friend has panic attacks. She says she needs help in discussing what I told her best friends ex about the cheating SS best friend did. I have chosen to ignore her, i don’t want to give any effort into her life now.

Hoping for your reply soon.

Dear Anita.

I let go of talking to SS 2 days back. But after 2 days she texted miss you out of the blue.

I talked to her like I don’t care and I’m fine with everything. Why is she texting I miss you after all this. I think she’s just immature. I wanted this to work really. I have asked God to give me what I need, and I have told him what I need.

I’m just keeping faith and patience to get what I need from the universe.

I am sorry if I have been less appreciate of you Anita. You are a wonderful human being, thank you for being here.

Hoping to hear from you soon.

Dear Anita, thank you for your kind words. I’m happy too.

To clarify, I was talking about SS’ best friend’s ex boyfriend, and I was only thinking in terms of a platonic relationship. We broke up together with our partners, so we have been supporting each other.

I don’t know if SS even misses me, we shared a lot of memories together, trips, nights, a lot of stuff. I’m sure she did everything in a rush. I just want to move on and tell myself I deserve the trust and integrity. Breakups are not easy….

Hoping for your reply soon dear Anita.

GoingThroughLife

Dear Anita, I agree with you. As time passes i am becoming aware of the problems the relationship had, where we both were wrong and I am starting to forgive us both. I am opening myself to uncertainty again. It is the only constatnt. I have also realised she was not the one, or everything would have worked out. I have started to make space for something new and uncertain and unfamiliar.

Anita, I made a friend who maybe feels like a small brother, he his SS best friends boyfriend, i care about him, but there is something which is scared in me to lose him, maybe because of the memories we made together. We went on 2 couple trips together. I am hoping to start a new beginning with him too, maybe we can tranform our friendship to something else. Any guidance on the same friend Anita?

I have been working under my father for 2 weeks now, it feels safe, he is guiding me, like i always wanted. I took a loop of faith out of intution, fear and faith. I hope everything works out in my career too.

Hoping to hear from you soon

Goingthroughlife

Dear Anita. Thank you for understanding. It hurts how someone just changes so much soon, when you yourself did all you could in and out of the relationship, maybe I wasn’t the best at tending to her feelings, but at least I never betrayed her. Today is the first night without her and without me planning to text her at 3 am in the night and it’s hard. She wants to date other guys, I know she still has feelings because she was calling me by my pet name, last time I met her, and said baby and I love you, when I called her during panic attack. It’s sad how someone you love dies suddenly in front of you. I’m actually sleeping with my sister and mother to seek safety and comfort.

I’m glad to hear this about your life, only thing we can do is continue to grow and heal. I hope you keep getting healed and happy in your own journey of going through life Anita.

I miss SS. Maybe it’s just about time.

Hoping to hear from you soon friend.

GoingThroughLife