hi Inky,

The more I think about my daughter’s upcoming wedding I am realizing:
(1) my side of family is surgically kept out of critical rituals.
(2) Kids are overwhelmingly influenced and acting according to wish of their mother and her side of family.
(3) kids and their mother are cherry picking items/events that they want their way.
(4) my side of family will be just spectators at the wedding nothing else.
(5) It would be then expressed that I ” the father” did not get involved.
(6) Kids mother who is a culprit presents herself as a victim.

Hi Inky and Mark,

Thank you for your support and suggestions. I can related to your situation you described. It seems that my wife is being crucified (especially by my daughter and family) for the exact actions that my ex-wife did take in past but “not her fault” label is being assigned to her. And that is what bothers/saddens  me a lot.

Almighty hopefully will give me strength and courage to handle whatever situation arises!!

Regards

• This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by happyme1.
• This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by happyme1.

Here are the facts.

1. More than 15 yrs ago I decided to get separated  from my wife the due to her having exta marital affair.

2. I have two daughters from that marriage.

3. About 10 yrs. ago I got remarried.

4. Since about a year relationship between my wife and daughters are not good.

4. My elder daughter is getting married 5his year and does not want my wife (her step-mom) to be part of it at all.

5. My wife has treated them like her own kids and feels very hurt.

6. She told me that during the wedding ceremony if they humiliate her then she is going to walk out.

7. I am willing to walkout with her too. In thus case my relationship my daughter will cease.

8. If I do not walkout with her then my relationship with my wife will cease.

Very stressed on this situation and need your words of wisdom on how to handle it.  Thank you.

Regards