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July 17, 2015 at 10:08 am #80011RachelParticipant
Please have no regrets. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You gave yourself to someone, you loved this person, this is a sign of strength, not weakness. You learned from this relationship, it is not a failure or a waste of time. Take what you’ve learned an apply it to your next relationship. I’m sure the reason why you’re angry is cause you didn’t get closure or revenge or maybe your disappointed cause your expectations weren’t met. What ever it is, you have the right to be mad, angry, hurt. Feel through it. You could just need more time to heal. I’m going through a break-up now, unhealthy relationship, both our fault. It’s been a rough road. But I need to hang on and see it through. You need to do the same. If you had the strength to give this man your heart, then you have the strength to walk away. It will be miserable … but it will be worth it.
Take care 🙂July 17, 2015 at 9:07 am #80006RachelParticipant
I am in the same boat you’re in; you’re not alone! Dating in our 40’s is a different animal all together. At this age, we all have baggage, stress, pain, anger, etc., all at different levels and frequencies. The key is to date with an open mind and with no expectations.
If you told this woman a joke and she took it the wrong way, unless you insulted her, which you say you didn’t, then that should tell you something. Maya Angelou said it best, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” My take is that this woman may be a little too sensitive. Why would you want to start a relationship with someone who can’t laugh at a joke? My gosh, life is hard enough, loosen up people!
I have to admit I’m at a cross-roads now where I wonder if I can ever love again? Sad, but true. Time for me to reflect and do some soul searching.
Don’t try to figure this woman out or try to figure out what you did wrong. Just take it at face value and move on.
Good luck to you and I hope you find the love you deserve 🙂