I too,was in an affair recently,only the opposite of yours,I met a woman at work who knew I was married,and non aggressively pursued me,basically for sex,sounds far fetched but it did happen,we had kind of a bad falling out,and I said some horrible things to her,and it basically turned my world and my heart and head totally upside down,I’ve been trying to cope with the fact that she is now gone and won’t talk to me or anything else for that matter,my wife is post menopausal and we hadn’t had sex in about 9 years,so when someone,a good looking woman told me she was interested in me just for sex I jumped at the opportunity,my wife is out of the country for months at a time,so I wasn’t worried about getting caught,but I’ve been in a major funk for the past few months,I know what I did was wrong,but this woman was amazing,and getting that feeling back of having sex regularly was amazing also,anyway……………