Hi Macintosh, forgive for not being clear, however I did have an affair. In witch I’m not that type of man. It really started with porn. I would hide it from my wife until she came across it. I only had time to do it when wasn’t home, however it became an additional. I really didn’t get a grip on it until my wife had an affair. I had some misguided advice about the problem I was having with my wife about porn from men twice my age. Just to make a long story short I was young and stupid, and did not value and respect my wife at the time I didn’t think that looking at porn wasn’t a big deal, and I had to learn the hard way. She was having an affair. That was about 6 years ago. I had an affair to get back at her year later and she had another affair to get back at me. I refused to do it again, but even now I’m having trust issues with her now years later. I love her more than anything I think sometime more than myself. We are starting counseling next week to see if we can work things out we both have a lot issues that we brought into this marriage. I know that you right about because it helped me in the pass, but I was the only one going at the time.