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  • #378932
    hopeful80
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    Hi Anonymous03,

    Ain’t nobody got time to be his mama. 🙂 Thank you for your input, I think you’re absolutely right that we are probably not as deep into this relationship as I thought. If it weren’t for Covid, we’d see eachother much less and wouldn’t spend that much time in his home or mine.

    Going to have an open an honest conversation and see where that leads us. Thank you!

    #378931
    hopeful80
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    Hi Anita,

    I am so happy to hear from you! Thank you for calling out my experience in 2018. I’ve thought alot of about this and I am seeing that I am reaching far more than the other person, always, willing to do more. I often times wonder if it’s for external validation and people pleasing. I’m aware of this and have been doing some inner work to break of the habit.

    #378929
    hopeful80
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    Hi TeaK!

    No, I have not moved into his place. Agreed that it would be way too soon. I only meant when I am there I cook, clean (after making a mess in the kitchen). We had decided to date exclusively when I found the photos of another woman. To me, if he is engaging and not shutting it down it’s cheating. I’ve spoken to him about it and explained that I didn’t feel like he was honoring our relationship or me while he was flirting with another woman via text. He agreed that if it were the other way around, it would be unacceptable and that he wouldn’t stand for it either. We have each gained some clarity and I’d like to move on from it.

    Your line of thinking makes total sense and I think that I have exaggerated my place in his life in my own head and perhaps taking some pause and a few steps back might not be a bad idea.

    I love this forum so much because of the objectivity and the support.

    THANK YOU!

    #271755
    hopeful80
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    A follow up, he’s already on dating apps within a week of our breakup. Why?

    #271753
    hopeful80
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    Hi  Chelsea!

    I’m in the same boat, my serious boyfriend stonewalled and left me feeling insecure, I wanted, and questioning my worth.

     

    While I know this is SO hard, please know what jes’s done to you HAS NOTHING to do with you.

     

    Be glad hea given you time to take of you. Don’t go back to the thing that broke you. Be strong, take it one day at a time. One hour will turn into one week, will turn into one year and before you know it you’ll be indifferent about him.

    Your job is to take care of you.♥️ Be well and I hope your heart heals quickly.

    #271345
    hopeful80
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    Thank you!! Any advice for a speedy recovery for my heart?

    #271323
    hopeful80
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    Hi Michelle: Thank you so much for your help. I ended up breaking up with him over text. Unbelievable. He wouldn’t call me back to discuss an upcoming visit. His choosing to lie, steal, and stonewall is closure enough for me. I’m out. 🙂

    #271321
    hopeful80
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    Hi Anita: He does want to protect me from himself (how noble). How he handled it was immature. I can not date a man who has alcohol dependency issues. He wouldn’t address a visit we had planned for this weekend (NYE), he won’t call me back. He’s shown his stripes and I am walking way. I had to break up with a 37 year old man with a text. Unbelievable.

    Thank you for your words of support!

    #271283
    hopeful80
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    Hi Anita,

    It had been a month, and he was feeling guilty. He had finally found the courage to tell me that he’d been sneaking alcohol behind my back. There were not any concrete answers from him.

    #271209
    hopeful80
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    Mark, hi, and thank you so much. He used to attend meeting before I met him. And now says he should “probably” seek rehab. But likely won’t happen. Thank you for the cut and dry advice.

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