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    Anita and Ramone,

    I will later on cut this down. I do find it often hard not to write lengthy posts in general but I think I also used that post as a sounding board, which is probably not very consise.

    The prompt I think (but she would not say) was contacting her family but I am not sure. Till that point, she had not mentioned that issue to me before. I do find though that I often don’t always listen/act upon things that are told me, in fact I often go the opposite way.

    My therapist, has not said anything but does think I need to work on things, I have been reffered to someone else who I will meet in about a week from now.

     

    in reply to: Feelings and emotions since splitting up from partner #139331
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    Thought I would catch up with this thread again briefly as I was reading these to see if there was a pattern for my latest relationship post.

    The other girl involved is actually still in the same relationship and moved abroad and we speak every now and then to discuss bits and bobs. I don’t feel anything there anymore.

    My long term, ex is still a good friend and still there for me through thick and thin. She has met someone and is settled into a nice life.

    Me I have gone to uni, hit 30.. and just split up from another relationship. Funnily enough, this woman also had issues committing and the one before that the same. Can you see a cycle? Just thought it would be nice to end this one completely.

    in reply to: I keep thinking of what could have been with my ex #85114
    Chris
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    I agree with everybodys sentiments on here @Alexy and @caroline, I will look into this Dopamine thing more as well. Might explain a few on my ups and downs when I see or speak to certain people.

    Only thing I want to add to the mix is, have you thought about travelling again and getting some adventure back in your life?? Maybe thats what you actually crave rather than a human being. Also its very easy to do things over Skype etc but never back it up in real life.
    I would move on, travel and enjoy life, its going to be tough.

    in reply to: I am short heighted and that bothers me too much!! #85113
    Chris
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    Seeker,

    Thanks for the reply, mentally prepare yourself and you will get there.
    I know its cheesy but the best things come in small packages!!

    in reply to: Feelings and emotions since splitting up from partner #85112
    Chris
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    Finally caught up with this thread guys and girls, thanks for the advice.
    I really liked the bit about Broken attracts Broken!
    So very true, I think i’m steering clear of the whole relationship thing and trying to focus on myself and get the thoughts of my ex partner out of my head.

    It is very hard to and not sure how but time will tell, I’ve had relationships before but none that have bothered me and stayed with me so long. I can see it being a tough and long road but once I come out the other side, I’ll be a better, more mature and grown up person, its just a pity I can’t do it with a particular person I want!

    in reply to: Feelings and emotions since splitting up from partner #84554
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    Thank you Inky, yes.. There has always been an element of the white elephant. I should have done it properly and married her. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

    It’s worse first thing in the morning than at night, prime example is today.. Have a day off and I’ve been moping in bed!! It’s not like me and I’m just a bit worried I think.

    A decade might see me and my BFF back together doing it right or maybe we will just still be BFF’s and happily married elsewhere!

    in reply to: I am short heighted and that bothers me too much!! #84551
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    Hello,

    Anything I say here is coming from a genuine 29 year old male who is also 5ft3!

    First of all, your height won’t stop you finding love or getting married. Yes it does cut down the potential candidates a bit but I’ve dated quite successfully girls who 5ft8/9.

    I think you have to realise that being short isn’t really an issue, lots of girls are not actually fussed by height of there man. Lots of girls are short or the same height as us, embrace it. You can still be manly, imposing, strong or what have you being strong.

    I say go for it and tell her how you feel, she might not laugh or say no! How tall is she??
    I’ve told myself that on the whole my partner is most likely going to be taller than me and guess what it’s not caused me harm. This may seem ironic me giving you advice about relationships bearing in mind my first post on here about a breakup ( she was shorter than me just) but I can relate to height and I’m telling you that it’s not such a disadvantage, we see loads of tall single men as much as shorter men, where not any less of a man than they are.

    Smile, it will happen and you will meet someone!

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