Mina, Eliana, & Anita – thank you for the input.

I agree with all you’re saying – I must love myself and be my own best friend. I must be secure and confident with myself if I am going to be able to love someone else and avoid anxiety and stress in my future relationship.

Mina – you were particularly right about being very attached – I can see myself doing this.

Eliana – you are very correct, I must be secure and love myself – I need confidence.

Anita – I meant alone in terms of friends and a relationship. I’ve always had my family to be grateful for, but I would like to find love.

My question to all of you remains: How do I love myself? How can I feel secure? How do I drop the desperation and neediness for a relationship so that I may attract love into my life. I have read numerous articles on here but I still feel lost.

Thank you once again.

Hi Inky,

Thanks for the thought – but I’d rather undertake the process of finding my soul mate by myself.

Anita – I would love some advice on how to be lonely and happy at the same time.

Judy,

Thank you for your kind words – I am in a terrible mood today and reading this put a smile on my face. I have always had an interest in photography (particularly high contrast black and white shots!) and I have a brand new camera sitting at home that I may just use tomorrow.

I appreciate the optimistic disposition you have shown – particularly in terms of the potentiality of the best people coming in my life. This is a really wise statement. It makes me feel a little happier.

I will take your advice on continue applying myself to learning all throughout my life. I am starting French classes (tomorrow actually) along with sign language.

Perhaps one day when I learn to love myself things may change – Do you have any tips in this department? In learning how to love yourself?

More to share:

I often feel like I have to force myself to put on this nice person persona. Despite the fact that I want to be a good and meaningful person – it often leads to awkwardness and is never fulfilling like I imagine it to be.

I also have major confidence issues in relation to my physical appearance. Not so much my looks, as opposed to, my height and my constant comparison of my life to others. I am very angry – almost all the time – at things which are insignificant in terms of importance.

Kat – I appreciate your comment and agree social interactions would have to be made a big priority – however…I find many people uninteresting, dull and stupid (for lack of a better word). I feel as if I cannot connect with people and bring myself down to their level of carelessness – and I would feel guilty if I tried as it would hurt my focus and hunger for progressing career wise. I want to be one of the best at what I  do and I cannot waste my time socializing. I don’t enjoy it to begin with.

My parents are amazing, hard-working and extremely supportive of my dreams and hopes. However, I do attribute my loneliness – in the women department specifically – to them. I was always told to focus on my school work and university as opposed to meeting girls. I was told majority are no good and would cheat on me.