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  • #146107

    anita
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    You are welcome, H. Wishing you to be and become your own person (it is not easy or simple for many..)

    anita

    #146115

    H
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    Thank you, Anita.

    I wouldn’t mind if you could please provide some tips for a happier life. You seem quite knowledgeable.

    #146129

    VJ
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    Dear H,

    “Perhaps one day when I learn to love myself things may change – Do you have any tips in this department? In learning how to love yourself?”

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    Warm Regards,
    VJ

    #146203

    anita
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    Dear H:

    You asked for “tips for a happier life”-Since “Drowning in my own loneliness” is the title of your thread, tips will have to attend to the issue in that title.

    But in a recent post you wrote that some people are meant to live life alone and that over time, you will get used to it (words to that effect). And you  wrote that your goal is career advancement, and nothing else, as I understood it.

    So, when you ask for “tips for a happier life”- do you mean how to advance your career (I have no tips regarding that), or do you mean ho to be lonely and happy? Or how to not be lonely?

    anita

    #146343

    Inky
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    Hi H,

    This may seem counter-intuitive advice, but..

    What if you had your parents have a hand in setting you up with someone? You instinctively follow their lead at this point, so instead of fighting it, have THEM introduce you to someone! I bet there are plenty of educated Persian women out there.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    #146363

    H
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    Hi Inky,

    Thanks for the thought – but I’d rather undertake the process of finding my soul mate by myself.

    Anita – I would love some advice on how to be lonely and happy at the same time.

     

    #146389

    anita
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    Dear H:

    I have no advice on how to be happy, not in any context. My advice to you before was to attend psychotherapy so to start a process that will lead you to well being. But even then, there is no such thing as being happy all the time, not even most of the time. It is not natural to be always happy.

    I aim at feeling calm, not feeling distressed. This is good enough for me. Happy still makes me nervous.

    How to hurt less when you are lonely- I do have advice on this, how to hurt less: do not try to feel differently from how you feel at any time. Don’t resist the feeling. Endure it and it will pass. Resist it- and you add to it, make it last longer.

    It is like when you have a foot cramp. It is better to just accept it and let it happen and then pass, than it is to panic, try to not feel it, contract, resist.

    Whatever you feel- accept it, don’t fight it, let it be.

    anita

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