Hey Dude. I just got out of a “partial hospital” for depression. When I went to go to it I freaked a little. WTF partial hospital. Turns out it wasn’t in the hospital at all. It was a building down the street from the hospital in an office. Basically every day from 8:30-3:30 we sat at tables facing each other and talked about certain depression type of topics. I was there longer than most..not because I was worse off but because my insurance paid for 20 days. I learned so much in how to cope with my depression (which I hated even admitting that I had…I have a male type of ego). Have you heard of dialectic behavior therapy? Most of our handouts were learning about this.
Anti-depressants are not the solve all problem. I am on them too. In fact I had learned that my depression had went back to year 2007 and I had been on anti-depressants since then for my anxiety attacks. Obviously it worked for the anxiety but not the depression.
See if there is a group through one of your hospitals that has a wellness group for depression. Most likely it is where they send the people that tried to commit suicide after they have been hospitalized. Some in my group were there from the hospital. Others of us were either referred by a doc or one lady came on her own. I thought that was pretty cool.
((hugs))

Autumn Air, I had dated a guy from the internet for much less than you. We really hit it off. I hadn’t slept with him though. It seemed like things were going great. Then it is like he dropped off the face of the earth. I was really hurt and confused. During that period I ended up dating other guys and had one guy that was my friends with benefit guy. Sounds weird but having one of those helps you not jump into things so quickly with guys that you are really interested in. Then I met the guy that is now my husband. Then I heard back from the first guy. He confessed and told me that he was trying to get back with his ex and did for a time (during our time apart). It was about a month that I heard back from him.
I imagine there are things you don’t know about this guy and possibly he was also seeing or sleeping with someone else and maybe tried to make it a go with them.
You are just lonely right now and feeling bad about how you reacted.
I would not call him.

Let me tell you about another dating story and it became my mantra while dating. I dated this guy and one night he slipped and hit his head. He went into seizures. I am a prior EMT and I called 911. We were out of a date and with other friends when this happened. You can have a seizure after hitting your head and be okay fyi. The EMT’s told me to stay with him all night and keep him awake. Mind you we were not sleeping together but I really liked him. So I stayed and cared for him. He was really embarrassed this happened. So I put myself out there. Then he stopped calling me. So I called him over a few days. Maybe once a day. The last phone call I said, “you know if you don’t call me back I am going to sound like a psycho calling you every day.” I realized that I probably did sound like a psycho just by saying that. I never called him back nor did I hear from him.

My mantra is if you think you sound like a bit nuts then you are probably acting like it. Meaning I have to take things slow and not get too invested too quickly.
My husband told me he loved me after 2 weeks of dating. How nuts is that? I have had guys do that in the past and then back out of what they said within the next week. I didn’t tell him I loved him for another 2 months.

Anyway, I think I am babbling. ha

I say don’t call. You are just lonely. There are many other guys out there worthy of your attention and won’t just cool off. And like the other person said…don’t sleep with them right away either..I know it is 2015 but guys still think bad shit about women that do this so quickly. Or at the very least do not spend the night. Give yourself a boundary of 2 months or so many dates…10? before you will go there.
I am 47 years old and I didn’t learn this till I was divorced (age 26) and in my 30s.
Good luck!
D